Sunday, January 8, 2017

Preventing Mental Illness in Your Young Adult with and Intellectual Disability (Mental Retardation) By: Grandma Jeddah

      Preventing Mental Illness in Your Young Adult with and Intellectual Disability (Mental Retardation) 
By: Grandma Jeddah

 Mental illness in young adults with mental retardation ( intellectual disabilities) is quite common as mentioned earlier.  
    Preventing problems is always preferable to solving them. Here are some tips from Helpguide.com that can help you foster healthy mental health with your child.

·         Learn what depression is.
·         Realize that medication is not suitable for long-term use.
·         Know that other treatments can be just as effective as medication.
·         Provide a strong bonding relationship by being there for your child to talk to.
·         Encourage friends, family, and others to befriend your child for social support.
·         Know that treatment takes time, and improvement can advance and regress at times.
·         Provide your child with sufficient exercise.
·         Provide your child with healthy, balanced meals.
·         Seek out ways of reducing your child’s stresses.
·         Teach your child relaxation techniques and outlets.
·         Expose your child to hobbies.

           Few outsiders understand the difficult struggle children with special needs live daily, dealing with constant disappointment and failures, knowing they don’t understand things that others grasp easily, tripping over their feet while others don’t, stumbling over words, and constantly being asked to repeat themselves for clarification.  Failure is their constant companion.  Many develop strong wills or abrasive personalities as a result of their continuous struggles to cope with their clumsiness, misplaced comments, mispronounced words and other idiosyncrasies. Parents should keep this in mind when they themselves become frustrated with managing the demanding and unruly behavior of their child with special needs.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 16 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-books at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/


Saturday, December 24, 2016

Intellectual Disability and Mental Illness Distinction Chart (Intellectual Disability Rights Service)

Easy Chart for Distinguishing Intellectual Disability and Mental Retardation
If you are interested in clearer and more specific information on the difference between Intellectual Disability and Mental Illness you will find an easy to follow chart at the link below.
http://www.idrs.org.au/s32/_guide/p040_4_2_IDandMI.php#.WF8_sfnyvcs

To be continued, insha'Allah.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 16 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-books at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

Thursday, December 15, 2016

What is the Difference Between Mental Illness and Mental Retardation? (By Grandma Jeddah)

Do you know the difference between Mental Illness and Mental Retardation (Cognitive Disability)?


Many people confuse mental retardation and mental illness or think they are the same. A child with a cognitive disability has below-average intelligence or mental ability and a lack of skills necessary for day-to-day living. People with cognitive disabilities can and do learn new skills, but they learn them more slowly. There are different levels of mental retardation. Most people who have it have a mild case. This presents a host of problems for the child, in particular once they get older. Often times they look normal. But they might say and do things that irk people and lead to the disabled person not having many friends or positive social interactions with others.

For instance, a young adult with a cognitive disability might carelessly pick their nose and eat their buggers in front of others. Or they might say things in conversations that don't fit the setting. The 25-year-old might even suck their thumb around other young adults who are highly conscious of being socially accepted. One of the behaviors that really distances some disabled youth from their peers is their asinine personalty. This type of personality can be a result of the excessive and constant corrections, put downs, and negative comments that the disabled person has had to deal with for years since the were young. 

Which leads to my definition of mental illness, which is s a condition that affects a person's thinking, feeling or mood. Mental illness  affects a person's ability to relate to others and function each day. Anyone can have mental illness, a doctor, computer engineer, or religious person. Mental illness has nothing to do with one's intellectual abilities. 

People with cognitive disabilities, however, have one of the highest rates of mental illness. It is quite understandable when one understands the type of life many live. A person with a mild to moderate cognitive disability is very aware that they cannot understand and do things like others. They constantly see others "having a life" while their disability prevents them from participating in some of the day-to-day activities that other non-affected people indulge in. They are often left out of social activities because they just don't "fit" or they are embarrassing to those they are with. 

to be continued, insha'Allah....

Wednesday, December 7, 2016

The Importance of Respecting Your Child (By: Grandma Jeddah)

Respect Your Child


As Muslims, we have an engrained understanding that children should obey their parents. Allah tells us in Quran about being kind to our parents. The Prophet Muhammad  (saw) has instructed us to be especially kind to our mother. A child who is not respectful to his parents is certainly behaving in a way that is contrary to our religion.

But not only should children be obedient and kind to their parents, . . parents should also be kind to their children. The Prophet (saw) has said: "He is not of us who does not have mercy on young children, nor honor the elderly." (Tirmidhi)


When interacting with our children and even when correcting them, we should remember to be gentle and kind with them. People are more inclined to pleasing those they have a positive relationship with. Speaking in a calm, respectful tone to your child does not convey a sign of weakness. To the contrary, it let’s them know that you are indeed in control—not only of the situation but also your emotions. 

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 16 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-books at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

Sunday, November 20, 2016

Message from the Principal (Brother Eric Ali)

Message from the Principal: 

(Brother Eric Ali)

When guiding our children toward proper Islamic character, we must remember that part of being a wise teacher or parent is being kind and gentle with our children. During the time of the Prophet (saw), a Bedouin urinated in the masjid. Immediately the Prophet’s companions rushed toward the man to beat him. But the Prophet (saw) told them to leave him alone. After the man finished urinating, the Prophet (saw) told him, “Verily, filth and urine are not permitted in these masjids. Indeed, it is for the remembrance of Allah.” The Messenger said to his companions, “I was sent to make things easy, and I was not sent to make things difficult.” And he poured a bucket of water over the urine. Even though our children were raised in Islam, eventually they will have to choose to be Muslims. Let’s help make the proper decision easy for them.

Monday, November 7, 2016

Looking for Wonderful Wisdom and A+ Advice on Parenting Your Child? Read this. . .

 If you like the following fabulous quotes on parenting, you will relish the entire article, insha'Allah:

"Parenting is Easy. You don't have to work upon your children, but you have to work upon yourselves to see results in your children."

"If you want to teach math, then you have to master mathematics. If you want to teach good manners, then you have to be a master in manners yourself." 

"How you present a Sunnah is just as important as the Sunnah itself. If we have Sunnah to teach, then we should have certain methods to teach them as well, which sadly, many parents ignore. " Brother Nisaar Nadiadwala 


Read the entire article on the Islamic Online University Blog
http://blog.islamiconlineuniversity.com/parenting-cannot-be-delegated/

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

7 Musts for Misbehavior of Children with Special Needs (From IOU, by Grandma Jeddah)

7 Musts for Misbehavior of Children with Special Needs 
(From IOU, by Grandma Jeddah)
“Shut up! I hate you! You’re stupid!”–Of course these words aren’t spewing through the hallways, doors and windows of a Muslim family home. Muslims don’t talk like that. And they certainly must not be firing out of the mouth of a Muslim child. Muslim children respect their parents.  
Fortunately, the average Muslim parent will never have to bear such inappropriate words issuing from the mouth of their child. But not all Muslim families are average. Not all Muslim families have children with a rational mind or sensible temperament. Some Muslim families have children who are autistic, others have children with ADHD, and some have children with cognitive disabilities (mental retardation). “Meaningless labels and unacceptable excuses,” some of you might be saying with disdain.  
Read more of Grandma Jeddah's article from the Islamic Online University Blog:
http://blog.islamiconlineuniversity.com/7-musts-for-misbehavior-of-children-with-special-needs/



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 16 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-books at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/