Children with learning disabilities and mild to moderate mental retardation are often looked upon as “normal” because many don't look like there's anything different about them on the outside. This leads to many misunderstandings and mislead assumptions on the part of those whom these children come in contact with. Because of their normal appearance, the children’s behavior is mistaken, for rudeness, immaturity, or attention seeking behavior. It is also mistakenly perceived as a result of poor parenting. Few outsiders understand the difficult struggle these children live daily, dealing with constant disappointment and failures, knowing they don’t understand things that others grasp easily, tripping over their feet while others don’t, stumbling over words, and constantly being asked to repeat themselves for clarification. Failure is their constant companion. Many develop strong wills as a result of their continuous struggles to cope with their clumsiness, misplaced comments, mispronounced words and other idiosyncrasies.
Likewise, few understand the enormous challenge parents of such children experience. It is particularly important for parents to educate themselves of their child’s disability so they can understand their child better and learn the special techniques needed to handle such children. In addition, it is wise to seek out parenting groups, support groups and other helpful resources for moral support.
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