Friday, July 1, 2011

Anger Help when Disciplining

       Your toddler spills the milk in the refrigerator right after you told him he couldn't have any.  Your 12-year-old slaps his 5-year-old  brother after you scolded the 12-year-old about teasing his younger brother. You're already in a bad mood because the toilet backed up and you had to clean the spill. And now . . . (you fill in the rest).
      Is it truly possible to remain patient with your kids when you're having one of those horrible, everything-is-going-wrong days?  
      Remember what the Prophet (saw) said about how to protect yourself from becoming angry: It is reported that Ubayy bin Ka`b said, "Two men disputed with each other in the presence of the Messenger of Allah and the nose of one of them became swollen because of extreme anger. The Messenger of Allah (saw) said,
 (I know of some words that if he said them, what he feels will go away, 'I seek refuge with Allah from the cursed Satan.')''
        Along with the above words, remember in general to ask Allah to help you get better at being patient.  For Allah is the one who grants patience to whom He wants. 

Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri: The Prophet (saw) said, “. . . Allah will give him patience and no one is granted a gift better and more comprehensive than patience. . .”
(Bukhari, Muslim)
This is an excerpt from Grandma Jeddah’s FREE e-Book: Discipline without Disrespecting: 8 Tips to Taming Your Muslim child's Temper.  To download your FREE e-Book or receive Grandma Jeddah's FREE newsletter, visit her at
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