And each one hath a goal toward which he turneth; so vie with one another in good works. Wheresoever ye may be, Allah will bring you all together. Lo! Allah is Able to do all things (Quran 2:148)
Kids of all ages love challenges. Even your older kids find challenges appealing. Virtually any challenge can result in success. Rather than reprimanding your teen for not getting good grades, give him a challenge: “If you get an “A” on your math test I’ll sign you up for the basketball league.” “For every “A” on your next report card you get a dollar.” Offering a reward for beating the challenge isn’t always necessary. Sometimes just winning the challenge can be excitement enough for your child. You and your daughter are folding and putting away the laundry. “I’ll beat you folding the clothes.” No reward needed, just the joy of the challenge.
This is an excerpt from Grandma Jeddah’s e-Book: Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child—And Keep Your Peace of Mind While at It. To order her e-Book or receive her free newsletter, visit her at http://www.grandmajeddah.com/