Principal's Message

Message from the Principal: Brother Eric Ali-- When guiding our children toward proper Islamic character, we must remember that part of being a wise teacher or parent is being kind and gentle with our children. During the time of the Prophet (saw), a Bedouin urinated in the masjid. Immediately the Prophet’s companions rushed toward the man to beat him. But the Prophet (saw) told them to leave him alone. After the man finished urinating, the Prophet (saw) told him, “Verily, filth and urine are not permitted in these masjids. Indeed, it is for the remembrance of Allah.” The Messenger said to his companions, “I was sent to make things easy, and I was not sent to make things difficult.” And he poured a bucket of water over the urine. Even though our children were raised in Islam, eventually they will have to choose to be Muslims. Let’s help make the proper decision easy for them.-- Al-Madinah School: 1635 South Saint Andrews Place, Los Angeles, California 90019-- madina@pacbell.net (1-323) 296-5961

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Pick Your Battles with Teens By: Grandma Jeddah


Let this be your motto with this age group. If you knit pick at every little thing your teen does, you won’t have ammunition for the big stuff.  If your teen hasn’t cleaned his room for a week and you just can’t stand looking at it anymore, how about not going in his room for a while until you’re in a better mood about the room.  Save your ammunition for when he swipes the car keys and takes the car without your permission, or slugs his younger brother.
When your teen uses inappropriate words in the home, or speaks to you in a curt manner, remind him that the Prophet (saw) was sent to perfect our manners,  and that if he doesn’t have anything good to say don’t say anything.  Long, in depth reproaches can become meaningless to teens.  Keep it brief. 
1-2-3, still works with this age group.  The challenge seems to still have its charm.  Use it often if you like. When your daughter snaps off at you, simply tell her, “I want you to apologize for talking disrespectfully to me by the time I count to three.” Say this showing no emotion.  You’re simply correcting a wrong. If she doesn’t respond to the count, talk to her as you would any other adult.  Let her know that Allah has prescribed that she be most kind to you.  Let her know that until she apologizes, you won’t take her places she needs to go, or if she is a driver she’s unable to use the car. Or tell her she’s unable to have friends over. You can also restrict items within the house such as family electronics, TV, computer, and Playstation.

This is an excerpt from Grandma Jeddah’s e-Book: Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child—And Keep Your Peace of Mind While at It.  To order her e-Book or receive her free newsletter, visit her at http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

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