Principal's Message

Message from the Principal: Brother Eric Ali-- When guiding our children toward proper Islamic character, we must remember that part of being a wise teacher or parent is being kind and gentle with our children. During the time of the Prophet (saw), a Bedouin urinated in the masjid. Immediately the Prophet’s companions rushed toward the man to beat him. But the Prophet (saw) told them to leave him alone. After the man finished urinating, the Prophet (saw) told him, “Verily, filth and urine are not permitted in these masjids. Indeed, it is for the remembrance of Allah.” The Messenger said to his companions, “I was sent to make things easy, and I was not sent to make things difficult.” And he poured a bucket of water over the urine. Even though our children were raised in Islam, eventually they will have to choose to be Muslims. Let’s help make the proper decision easy for them.-- Al-Madinah School: 1635 South Saint Andrews Place, Los Angeles, California 90019-- madina@pacbell.net (1-323) 296-5961

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Quick Read on Discipline Tips by: Islamic World

Quick and Easy Read on Disicipline Tips

http://islamic-world.net/parenting/parenting_page/discipline_tips.htm

Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Timeless Tips on Patience when Disciplining by:Ummuka

Timeless tips on maintaining patience when disciplining your child.
http://umuka.blogspot.com/search/label/anger%20control


Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Child Physical Abuse by: American Humane.org

http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-child-abuse/fact-sheets/child-physical-abuse.html

Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Sunday, September 18, 2011

Child Discipline by American Humane Society

Child Discipline by American Humane Society
http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-child-abuse/fact-sheets/child-discipline.html

Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Thursday, September 15, 2011

A Tip on Learning to Control Your Temper when Disciplining


A Tip on Learning to Control Your Temper when Disciplining
Quran 2: 183
O Ye who believe! Fasting is prescribed to you as it was prescribed to those before you, that you may (learn) self-restraint.
A common problem many mothers write in to Grandma Jeddah about is how to control their temper with their children.  These mothers are already on the road to improvement, because they’ve taken the first step, which is realizing that they need to change or improve their parenting methods. Here are a few pointers on how to help yourself maintain self-control when disciplining your children:
·         Learning how to be patient with your children takes practice.  Remember that no one is perfect, but practice does help one to improve.  So make a conscious effort to improve.
·         Think about how you would want to be treated if you were your child.
·         Read about and learn about the ways The Prophet (SAW) dealt with people.  Use him as your example.
·         Fast.  Although not eating can sometimes put one on edge, it also has a calming effect.  We are often more subdued when our stomach is not full. In addition, when fasting we are encouraged to avoid conflict and argumentation. Most of us are familiar with the hadith that says, if somebody should fight or argue with you, you should say, ‘I am fasting.’
Even though Ramadan is over we still have many opportunities to receive the blessings and reward of fasting.  Of course the 6 days of Shawwal are encouraged.  Also, Mondays and Thursdays are
recommended days for fasting.  The three days during the middle of the lunar month are suggested, as well. Use these days to help you get the reward of fasting and gain better self-control, insha’Allah.





Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Helping our Special Needs Children to Cope

Helping our Children with Disabilities to Cope
http://growmama.com/spirituality/the-woman-who-chose-allah/#comment-2803

Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Monday, September 12, 2011

Know the Signs of Emotional Abuse

http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-child-abuse/fact-sheets/emotional-abuse.html


Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Be a Very Good Muslim to Your Children by: Grandma Jeddah

Narrated Abu Musa “Some people asked Allah’s Apostle, “Whose Islam is the best? i.e. (who is a very good Muslim?"He replied, “One who avoids harming the Muslims with his tongue and hands. (Bukhari)

As mothers, we are over our children.  We are responsible for raising them. And they are obligated to obey us, unless we command them to do wrong. How many times have we heard of the one who is in charge taking advantage of the one he is in charge of?
It is easy to take out our frustrations, bad day or other problems on our children . . . they are helpless, weak and dependent upon us. But during our times of troubles, we must remember that they have a right on us.  On the Day of Judgment, no one will be concerned about their mother, father, sister or brother.  Everyone will try to save themselves. We don’t want our children to be of those who will take from our good deeds because we mistreated them. 
When correcting your child for misbehavior, be certain you are giving them their rights.  Learn the methods of discipline that The Prophet (SAW) used with his family and others.  He used gentle means of persuasion, being a good example, and kindness.


Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Friday, September 9, 2011

Positive Parenting for School from U.S. Centers for Disease Control

Positive Parenting (Retrieved from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control


You can help your child become independent, while building his or her sense of responsibility and self-confidence at the same time. Here are some suggestions:

  • Spend time with your child. Talk with her about her friends, her accomplishments, and what challenges she will face.
  • Be involved with your child’s school. Go to school events; meet your child’s teachers.
  • Encourage your child to join school and community groups, such as a team sport, or to take advantage of volunteer opportunities.
  • Help your child develop his own sense of right and wrong. Talk with him about risky things friends may pressure him to do, like smoking or dangerous physical dares.
  • Help your child develop a sense of responsibility—involve your child in household tasks. Talk to your child about saving and spending money wisely.
  • Meet the families of your child’s friends.
  • Talk with your child about respecting others. Encourage your child to help people in need. Talk with him or her about what to do when others are not kind or are disrespectful.
  • Help your child set his own goals. Encourage him to think about skills and abilities he would like to have and about how to develop them.
  • Make clear rules and stick to them. Talk to your child about what you expect from her when no adults are supervising. If you provide reasons for rules, it will help your child to know what to do in those situations.
  • Use discipline to guide and protect your child, instead of punishment to make him feel badly about himself.
  • Talk with your child about the normal physical and emotional changes of puberty.
  • Encourage your child to read every day. Talk with her about her homework.
  • Be affectionate and honest with your child, and do things together as a family.
Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Get Organized to Mininmize Discipline Problems this School Year

Being organized can minimize discipline problems at the beginning of the school year.  Here are 10 tips on starting the school year out right with your elementary-school-aged child.
http://www.parentfurther.com/10-back-school-tips-parents-elementary-school-aged-kids

Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Be Proactive with Your Child’s Discipline Problems this School Year by Grandma Jeddah

Some children are more known for their behavioral problems than others. If your child had a few discipline problems last year in school, don’t wait for parent conference day or report card day to get in touch with your child’s teacher.  Let your child’s teacher know you are concerned about helping improve your child’s behavior.  Ask the teacher if she uses any special discipline techniques at school that you can follow up with at home. Volunteer for a day or so each month. This will show your child and his teacher that you really care about his progress in school. 
Children have different characteristics.  Some are easier to manage than others.  Showing interest in your child’s, school, classroom, teacher and class work is one way of showing your child how important he is to you.  The discipline process is much easier when your child feels and knows you care. 


Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Order her book or subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Monday, September 5, 2011

Have a Back-to-School plan to Minimize Discipline Problems

Have a back-to-school plan and schedule to minimize discipline problems with your kids
http://www.parentfurther.com/10-back-school-tips-parents-preschoolers

Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Sunday, September 4, 2011

The Best Women are Kind and Merciful to their Children by: Grandma Jeddah

According to Abu Huraira, The Prophet (saw) said, “The best women among (the Arabs) are the women of Quraish.  They are merciful and kind to their children and the best guardians of their husband’s properties. (Bukhari)
In our daily interactions with our children, remember this hadith.  It's useful to remember when disciplining our children, as well.  The old saying "you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar." is a wise one.

Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.

Friday, September 2, 2011

Great News from Grandma Jeddah!

Assalamu Alaikum Sisters,
May Allah accept your fasting and good deeds from Ramadan.
Grandma Jeddah has added several NEW items to help you make obeying easier and discipline simpler. 
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Speak to them Words of Kindness and Justice by: Grandma Jeddah

To those weak of understanding, give not your property which Allah has assigned to you to manage,  but feed and clothe them therewith, and speak to them words of kindness and justice (Sura An-Nisaa 4:5)
Some of us have children with learning disabilities, autism, mental retardation or other intellectual weaknesses.  According to Tafsir of Ibn Kathir1, the term “weak of understanding” can apply to our children with weak intellect.
Allah knows everything.  He knows how trying and challenging managing such children can be at times.  However, in this ayat, he tells us to “speak to them words of kindness and justice. “
The next time you are disciplining and growing impatient with your child that has some form of intellectual challenge, let Allah’s words be your guide: “. . . speak to them words of kindness and justice.”
1http://www.quran4u.com/Tafsir%20Ibn%20Kathir/004%20Nisa.htm

Grandma Jeddah is the author of Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child—And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It. Subscribe to her free newsletter at www.grandmajeddah.com.