Principal's Message

Message from the Principal: Brother Eric Ali-- When guiding our children toward proper Islamic character, we must remember that part of being a wise teacher or parent is being kind and gentle with our children. During the time of the Prophet (saw), a Bedouin urinated in the masjid. Immediately the Prophet’s companions rushed toward the man to beat him. But the Prophet (saw) told them to leave him alone. After the man finished urinating, the Prophet (saw) told him, “Verily, filth and urine are not permitted in these masjids. Indeed, it is for the remembrance of Allah.” The Messenger said to his companions, “I was sent to make things easy, and I was not sent to make things difficult.” And he poured a bucket of water over the urine. Even though our children were raised in Islam, eventually they will have to choose to be Muslims. Let’s help make the proper decision easy for them.-- Al-Madinah School: 1635 South Saint Andrews Place, Los Angeles, California 90019-- madina@pacbell.net (1-323) 296-5961

Thursday, October 31, 2013

Take a Walk Together


                            Take a Walk Together
As you read this section, little by little you begin to discover uncomplicated ways of giving your child attention.  If you walk as a regular daily routine, take one of your kids along with you on one of your walking adventures.  This provides an opportunity for you and your child to engage in pleasant conversation.  Talk about the many colored flowers you notice along the way. Enjoy the bluebirds landing in their nests or the squirrels scampering up the trees.  Delight in the puffy clouds floating across the sky.  Ask them who created all of the wonderful things you enjoy on your excursion.

            Are you beginning to see there are countless simple ways of showing your child you care about him by giving him special notice?  Your turn now.  Make your own list of ways to show your child you’re pleased Allah blessed you with him.


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Parenting in the Age of New Media - Advice for (Muslim) Parents

Parenting in the Age of New Media - Advice for (Muslim) Parents (patheos.com)
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/altmuslim/2013/06/parenting-in-the-age-of-new-media-advice-for-muslim-parents/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Friday, October 25, 2013

Make Obeying Fun-- By: Grandma Jeddah

Make Obeying Fun: By Grandma Jeddah

A great way to encourage your child to comply with rules is making the atmosphere friendly. Instead of directing with sternness, try using a little humor.

Abu Hurayrah (ra) narrates: We said: O Messenger of Allah! You jest with us? He said (saw)"Yes except that I do not say except what is true."  (Tirmidhi)

          You don't have to be a comedian to make your child laugh. Tickle your kids. Play Knock, Knock who’s there? 

“Knock, Knock”
“Who’s there?”
“Clean.”
“Clean who?”
“Clean your room--it’s messy.”

          Yeah . . .I know it’s corny- but kids enjoy corniness.
Or how about this one for a messy room—“It’s a good thing your toys aren’t lions or they would’ve eaten you by now.” (Yuck!) The point is, just lighten up a bit.
Remember that your jokes should not be fiction.  According to a hadith, The Prophet (saw) discouraged lying when joking.

According to Hadith, The Prophet (saw) said: woe to the one who speaks and tells a lie in order to make people laugh.  Woe to him.  Then again, woe to him. (Abu Dawud, Al-Tirmidhi, and Al-Nasaai)


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Let her show you how respectful discipline methods, which encourage calmness, advising, gentleness and non-corporal consequences, can be a successful means of training  your children to be Allah fearing Muslims. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Motherhood Series: When Iman Level Drops (by: Sana Gul) Productive Muslim

Motherhood Series: When Iman Level Drops (by: Sana Gul) Productive Muslim
http://productivemuslim.com/motherhood-series-3/#comment-11140

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Let her show you how respectful discipline methods, which encourage calmness, advising, gentleness and non-corporal consequences, can be a successful means of training  your children to be Allah fearing Muslims. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Friday, October 18, 2013

5 Tips to put Baby to Sleep

5 Tips to put Baby to Sleep (umddean.blogspot.com)
http://umdean.blogspot.com/2013/03/5-tips-to-put-baby-to-sleep.html


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Monday, October 14, 2013

You Hurt Me

You Hurt Me
by Grandma Jeddah
Abû Hurayrah (ra) reported that Prophet Muhammad (saw) said:
"Indeed Allâh is gentle and loves gentleness, and gives due to gentleness that which He does not give to harshness." (Muslim)

One of the most difficult situations for parents to handle calmly is when their children use words or actions that hurt their feelings.  Although parents do not cause children to behave in a vengeful manner, they can influence a child to misbehave this way.
One of the ways you can lead your child to act resentfully is by being disrespectful to him.  Shouting, calling him names, embarrassing him, or hurting him physically not only builds bitterness, it counters a positive relationship between you and your child.  This breakdown in the relationship is frequently seen during the adolescent years.
 When kids get older, in particular during adolescence and early adulthood, hitting is not a reasonable option.  A mother may have been able to control her young child with such measures due to the mother’s greater size and superior intellect.  These assets shift during the child’s adolescent and young adult years.  Children at this age are just as big as or bigger than their parents.  And their ability to reason intellectually soars during this time period.  Children at this age may refuse to accept being physically hit or spoken to brusquely.  The repercussions are a contentious environment and an indignant child who is less willing to obey. This rebellion is not only expressed toward family members but can also be seen in aversion and lack of obedience to religious instruction, as well.

Narrated Anas: Make things easy for the people, and do not make it difficult for them, and make them calm with glad tidings, and do not make people adverse. (Bukhari, Muslim)

فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِنَ اللَّهِ لِنْتَ لَهُمْ ۖ وَلَوْ كُنْتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَانْفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ ۖ
It is part of the mercy of Allah that you deal gently with them. If you were severe or hardhearted, they would have broken away from you . . .  (Quran 3: 159)

Your child is more willing to cooperate with you even when it’s against his wishes when you two have a respectful, understanding and cooperative relationship.  In Dr. Michael Poplin’s book Taming the Spirited Child he mentions that in one of his counseling sessions with an older teenager, he had to explain to the young man that he knew how difficult it was for the young man to do what he knows is right when that action is the same as what his parents wanted him to do. This aversion to obeying parents when hurt by them can be very strong in children. Knowing this can help direct parents in managing their child's behavior.  Instead of venting your anger through vicious strikes and belligerent tirades, remain calm and civil when correcting your child.  Some parents believe that a hard approach such as forcing their child into submission will achieve their goal. But often the opposite is true.  Force builds aversion which breaks down reception of information as well as communication.  It also leads to resistance that can lead to conflict.  Whenever possible, parents should make things easy for their children. When your child is content with you, he is more inclined to be content with the religion you have raised him with.
It is related that 'Umar said: 'Do not make people dislike Allah, by making the salah so long that it should become hard on those praying behind you." 6

It is reported that the Prophet (saw) said: Allah did not send me to be harsh or cause harm, but he sent me to teach and make things easy. (Muslim)

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Friday, October 11, 2013

The upbringing of Muslim children

The upbringing of Muslim children (muslimchild.blogspot.com)
http://muslimchild.blogspot.com/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Bully-Proofing Your Kids (Dr. Michelle Borba)

Bully-Proofing Your Kids (Dr. Michelle Borba)
http://micheleborba.com/bully-proofing-our-kids/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Thursday, October 3, 2013

Parents and Children

Parents and Children (al-Islam.org)
http://www.al-islam.org/islamic-family-life-rizvi/3.htm



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com