Principal's Message

Message from the Principal: Brother Eric Ali-- When guiding our children toward proper Islamic character, we must remember that part of being a wise teacher or parent is being kind and gentle with our children. During the time of the Prophet (saw), a Bedouin urinated in the masjid. Immediately the Prophet’s companions rushed toward the man to beat him. But the Prophet (saw) told them to leave him alone. After the man finished urinating, the Prophet (saw) told him, “Verily, filth and urine are not permitted in these masjids. Indeed, it is for the remembrance of Allah.” The Messenger said to his companions, “I was sent to make things easy, and I was not sent to make things difficult.” And he poured a bucket of water over the urine. Even though our children were raised in Islam, eventually they will have to choose to be Muslims. Let’s help make the proper decision easy for them.-- Al-Madinah School: 1635 South Saint Andrews Place, Los Angeles, California 90019-- madina@pacbell.net (1-323) 296-5961

Monday, December 29, 2014

Introduction to Mom, I’m Stressed! Stress Help for Muslim Teens and Youth (By: Grandma Jeddah)

Introduction to 
Mom, I’m Stressed! 
Stress Help for Muslim Teens and Youth
By: Grandma Jeddah

I am a teacher at an Islamic school in Los Angeles. I’m also the mother of 11 children. I’m quite aware that youth have their own set of problems, difficulties and stresses that plague them. On the news here in America, hardly a month goes by without reports of youth committing violent atrocities  . . . because they were unable to deal with the stresses in their lives.

Interestingly, however, these incidents of mass murders in schools and suicides aren’t found in nations that are considered third world, underdeveloped, or poor. Why? This is an important question to consider. Why is it that those in the most advanced societies in the world, are producing youth who are unable to cope with life?

When God is left out of people’s lives, you will find people at a loss for purpose in life. You will find people who care about little more than their own self gratification and material wealth. They have little concern for truly admirable qualities of character . . . honesty, modesty, patience, and charity.

This book is a brief and simple reminder to help you, my dear youth, put things in their proper perspective to help you get through your challenging moments in life.

May Allah the Most High forgive us all our sins, bless us all with the good of this world and the hereafter and protect us from the hellfire.

Your Sister in Islam,
Grandma Jeddah

Order it Now at: http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/Mom-Im-Stressed-Stress-Help-for-Muslim-Teens-and-Youth-145.htm

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Youthful Marriage: Impractical ideal, or a viable option? (Sisters Magazine)

Youthful Marriage:
Impractical ideal, or a viable option?

http://www.sisters-magazine.com/index.php?route=articles/articles&articles_id=232

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Saturday, December 27, 2014

Sticking with Your Teen: Having to Say You're Sorry (From:Focus on the Family, By Joe White & Lissa Halls Johnson)


Sticking with Your Teen: Having to Say You're Sorry

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/teens/apologizing-to-your-teen/sticking-with-your-teen-having-to-say-youre-so

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/teens/apologizing-to-your-teen/sorry-seems-to-be-the-hardest-word

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Friday, December 26, 2014

Is your teen stressed out?
Give them this book so they won't have to shout!

Grandma Jeddah's New e-Book

Mom, I'm Stressed!
Stress Help for Muslim Teens and Youth 

http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/Mom-Im-Stressed-Stress-Help-for-Muslim-Teens-and-Youth-145.htm





Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Thursday, December 25, 2014

We'd like your help, please

"A dear sister, Umm Haneefah is researching into a revolutionary way of explaining puberty and sex ed to children and would like you to fill this questionnaire"

Have you ever been asked a question by your child and the first answer that came to your mind was “where on earth did you hear that from?”.... thinking “how do I answer this?” 
Whether that was your answer or not, the dilemma still remains – How best do you answer the birds and bees questions (and every other thing in-between)? 
Hurry! The survey closes at midnight 30th December 2014

Sunday, December 21, 2014

Does Your Teen Need Some Guidance?

Does Your Teen Need Some Guidance?

You heard it from friends and family when the kids were toddlers:  

"You think the terrible twos are bad . . .  just wait until they are teens!"


Well now your kids are teens and boy were they right! You never imagined it would be this difficult. Of course no isolated book has all the solutions to help your teen with his or her life problems other than Quran.  Grandma Jeddah's newest e-book, Mom, I'm stressed: Stress Help for Muslim Teens and Youth, guides your child back to the principles of Islam to solve their everyday stresses . . . and hopefully, make life a little bit easier for Mom, too!

With an Islamic perspective, Grandma Jeddah guides your child with practical steps for managing some of the most common problems youth are struggling with today, from drug use to feeling sad and depressed.

It's well known that the present generation has no time for long drawn out explanations, so the book is quick and easy reading.  Look for it next week, insha'Allah.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Saturday, December 20, 2014

Tips for Teens on How to Handle Pornography (From: Islamic Finder)

Tips for Teens on How to Handle Pornography (From: Islamic Finder)
Remind your teens about the harms of pornography, a growing problem for many, both teens as well as adults..
http://www.islamicfinder.org/articles/article.php?id=145

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

The Boy who Barked (By: Grandma Jeddah)



The Boy who Barked
By
Grandma Jeddah


“Bark, bark” his voice echoed through the classroom.  A minute’s pause, and again, “Bark, bark.”  The first grader scribbled down the answers to his math problems on the lined paper in front of him.  The sounds surging from his throat were a familiar companion, but not a welcome one for his teacher or classmates.

“Shut up!” said one boy across the room.
“I can’t concentrate,” said another.
“Teacher, can you tell him to stop making that noise?”
“Amir, stop that noise or sit outside the classroom to do your work,” demanded the teacher.

Amir has Tourettes Syndrome, a neurological disorder generally first noticed in children around ages 7 through 10 years old.

Tourettes causes a variety of vocal or muscular twitches called “tics.” Some of the most common forms of tics are constant repetitive eye blinking, vocal sounds, facial twitches, head jerking, sniffing objects, touching objects, jumping, bending, shrugging and twisting.  Vocal tics can involve throat clearing, grunting and barking sounds.  At its extreme, Tourettes can result in physical harm in which the child may punch himself or even swear; however, this is rare.  The disorder occurs 3 to 4 times more often in boys than girls.

If you have a child with Tourettes Syndrome, start out the new school year with a better understanding of how to manage your child’s behavior optimally. Here are some points you want to keep in mind whether you home school or send your child away to school.   


Tics Wax and Wane Intermittently

Although your child’s tics may appear voluntary or purposeful, they are not. The urge is similar to the need to sneeze, blink your eyes or scratch an itch. Your child’s tics may come and go from time to time.    A period of head jerks or barks may last several weeks, several months or over a year. Then, suddenly, tics can decrease or even appear to completely go away at periods.  Usually they return within a three month period. When your child resumes his tics after a lull, you might misinterpret his renewed repetitive sounds and movements as stubborn rebelliousness. This is because you have seen him stop performing the tic for an extensive period. So you may believe he can stop at will. You might even accuse him of faking his behavior and order him to stop. To satisfy your demands, your child may try to suppress his strong urge to act on his tic.  Unfortunately, this very act of suppression results in a buildup of tension that causes a more severe urge to release the tic. 
Your child’s tics can also depend on the circumstances in his life at the time.  His tics often get worse when he is worried or excited. They subside during periods of relaxation or focused activities. 


Tics can lead to unwarranted punishment

One important thing you want to keep in mind with your child is that Tourettes can be a cause for him receiving unwarranted punishment or reprimands.  Brad Cohen, a teacher and author who suffers from Tourettes Syndrome describes a memorable account in his book, Front of the Class: How Tourettes Syndrome Made me the Teacher I Never Had.  He tells of an episode during his childhood in which he was seated in the back of his father’s car as his father maneuvered at the wheel.  Brad had developed several annoying ticks; among them was the irritating tendency to repeatedly bump his knee against the car door. His explanation to his dad that he couldn’t help acting on his impulses was getting nowhere.  Fed up with having to repeatedly tell his son to stop, Brad’s father wacked him across the face to get him to stop the knee knocking. The shock of being slapped stopped Brad’s ticks for a short while, but he eventually returned to the knee thumping even though he feared the next smack to come.

            Many children with Tourettes have additional disruptive and troublesome behaviors that accompany their disorder.   Among them are ADHD/ADD and obsessive compulsive disorder OCD.    Learning disabilities are also common among children with Tourettes.  Because your child with Tourettes may exhibit such an array of atypical behavioral, it is wise for you to learn positive discipline techniques that use rewards and parental affection to encourage obedience. These procedures are more effective than methods that emphasize belittling and physical punishment. They lead to better cooperation and less defiance from children with Tourettes.

             If you are not familiar with effective discipline methods that avoid hitting, scolding and shaming, check out books from the library or search online for information on effective discipline methods for children, in particular children with disabilities.  There is ample information out there.  Persistence in learning is a key to developing successful discipline techniques for your child with Tourettes.  The more you read and put into practice what you've learned, the more the techniques will become a part of your daily routine, insha’Allah.

            Although raising your child with Tourettes may seem daunting at times, educating yourself about your child’s disability can help ease the strain. Knowledge of his condition will help you know what to expect as distinctive behavior. It will also minimize unrealistic expectations you may have regarding his conduct.  Educating yourself about Tourettes is crucial, because such children can suffer from lingering emotional or psychological scars when they live in an environment in which family members, friends, school officials and others interact with them with little or no understanding of their condition.



Inform School Officials

If your child attends school, distribute Tourettes fact sheets to school personnel he frequently has contact with. Many people are unaware that the disorder exists; this includes some educators, as well.  Even once you have alerted others about the condition, many people will continue to consider your child’s odd behavior as misbehavior.  Other than gentle frequent reminders, there’s not much you can do to change someone’s opinion about an issue.  Your patience at home can be the haven your child needs to successfully handle his condition.


Remain Patient

Having patience is a priceless quality when dealing with your child who has Tourettes Syndrome. Being patient and tolerant can allow you to be flexible rather than rigid when managing his behavior. This does not mean you should become lax in your discipline methods.  It simply means you should realize your child has a condition that is not normal, which makes it difficult for him to control himself at times.  This is particularly so if he exhibits extreme forms of ADHD or OCD.
 Being consistent when disciplining is important for effective control of your child.  But knowing how to address the misbehavior is important, as well.  You may have a no nonsense policy regarding your children shouting at you or calling you names.  Your 9-year-old child with Tourettes and accompanying ADHD  may have no reservations at all calling you a name or using provoking words when he’s angry with you.  Whatever your penalty is for his talking back to you, be it extra chores, no computer for an hour, or what have you, enforce it.   But realize that part of his actions may be related to his Tourettes and ADHD, which can cause him difficulty in controlling his impulses.   Rather than focus on making the punishment severe, emphasize making the penalty consistent.  Raising a child with Tourettes Syndrome can truly be a balancing act when determining how to manage inappropriate behavior.


Be supportive

The importance of a supportive and informed family and community cannot be over emphasized when dealing with your child who has Tourettes.  Support and understanding can give your child the confidence and skills he needs to self manage his disability in a productive manner. It can also help you affirm that some of your children’s behavior may not be misbehavior . . .  it may merely be a disorder that must be managed. 

More information on Tourettes Sydrome can be obtained from the following websites:

National Tourette Syndrome Association (TSA)

National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Strokes



Find more help and management techniques for your child with disabilities such as autism, ADD, mental retardation and more from Grandma Jeddah’s e-book: How to Nurture, Manage, and Discipline Your Muslim Child with Special Needs


Sunday, December 14, 2014

Islamic World Net, Parenting Page (Author unknown)

      Islamic World Net, Parenting Page (Author unknown)

      Notice Your Child's Good Deeds

    Try to notice as many good things your children do as possible!!!


    As soon as possible after your child does something good comment on that thing (be specific as to what the good thing was), and give your child praise for having done that good thing.
    Example - Your young daughter falls, hurts her knee, and begins crying. Your son seeing this goes over to his little sister, helps her get back up, and comforts her. Having observed all this take place you go up to your son right away and say something like,
      "I saw you help you sister get up after she fell and then tried to make her feel better. That was really nice of you to do. I feel good to have a son who loves his sister so much."

    Also say to your son,
      "Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will be very pleased with you for helping your sister."

    Things to remember...
    1. Give the praise as soon as possible after the good deed.
    2. Say specifically what the good deed was.
    3. Give the praise sincerely and in a loving manner.
    4. Have variety in how you give praise, don't always say the same thing.

    NOTE – Notice how in the above example the praise given had three parts. First the mother told her son what he did was a nice thing to do, second she told him how it made her feel good, and third she took the opportunity to let him realize how much he loves his little sister.
Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Sunday, December 7, 2014

Child Abuse and the Muslim Community (From: MentalHealth4Muslims)

Child Abuse and the Muslim Community (From: MentalHealth4Muslims)
http://mentalhealth4muslims.com/2010/06/27/child-abuse-the-muslim-community/#&panel1-8

This is an excerpt from Grandma Jeddah’s e-Book: Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child—And Keep Your Peace of Mind While at It.  To order her e-Book or receive her free newsletter, visit her at: http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  or   http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Friday, December 5, 2014

Keeping Muslim Teens Muslim: 22Tips (Sound Vision)

Keeping Muslim Teens Muslim: 22Tips (Sound Vision)
http://www.soundvision.com/info/parenting/teens/22tips.asp



This is an excerpt from Grandma Jeddah’s e-Book: Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child—And Keep Your Peace of Mind While at It.  To order her e-Book or receive her free newsletter, visit her at: http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  or   http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakatu,

If you have commented on Grandma Jeddah's blog. Thank you and Jazakalakhair. Your comments are most welcome. May Allah bless many mothers to benefit from them.

I have replied to your comments but I am not certain if you have received them. Grandma Jeddah is still a bit old fashioned and doesn't know how to make her replies visible to the public. She welcomes anyone's assistance who would like to explain to her how to do it, insha'Allah.

Jazakalakhair wa Barakalafik.

Teaching Your Child about Sex Education (From: Academia.edu, By: Shahidul Islam)

Teaching Your Child about Sex Education
http://www.academia.edu/453374/Sex_Education_An_Islamic_View




This is an excerpt from Grandma Jeddah’s e-Book: Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child—And Keep Your Peace of Mind While at It.  To order her e-Book or receive her free newsletter, visit her at: http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  or   http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html