Principal's Message

Message from the Principal: Brother Eric Ali-- When guiding our children toward proper Islamic character, we must remember that part of being a wise teacher or parent is being kind and gentle with our children. During the time of the Prophet (saw), a Bedouin urinated in the masjid. Immediately the Prophet’s companions rushed toward the man to beat him. But the Prophet (saw) told them to leave him alone. After the man finished urinating, the Prophet (saw) told him, “Verily, filth and urine are not permitted in these masjids. Indeed, it is for the remembrance of Allah.” The Messenger said to his companions, “I was sent to make things easy, and I was not sent to make things difficult.” And he poured a bucket of water over the urine. Even though our children were raised in Islam, eventually they will have to choose to be Muslims. Let’s help make the proper decision easy for them.-- Al-Madinah School: 1635 South Saint Andrews Place, Los Angeles, California 90019-- madina@pacbell.net (1-323) 296-5961

Thursday, March 31, 2016

Managing Your Child with a Special Need

To encourage parents to learn more about developmental disabilities like cognitive disability (formerly mental retardation), and autism Grandma Jeddah will be posting throughout this month excerpts from her e-book Your Challenging Muslim Child with Special Needs, insha'Allah.


Managing Your Child with a Special Need

Chapter 4 

Managing Your Child with a Learning Disability or Cognitive Disability


Get Help if Concerned

Most parents sense when something just isn’t right with their child. A mother may notice her child is behind the norm in her ability to speak by age two.  Or she may observe her child’s inability to say her name when asked at age four.  A mother might find that her child still hasn’t learned the names of colors at age six even though she’d been taught them for an entire school year.   When suspicion regarding your child’s intellectual ability lasts for a long duration and occurs frequently, your concerns might be worth looking into. There is help available.  The earlier help is sought, the sooner you can obtain the proper knowledge about your child's abilities and developmental stages.   This will allow you to act with an informed perspective.   Lack of information can result in your child suffering due to unrealistic expectations from you and others. Your perceptions of your child’s failure to comply may actually be her inability to fulfill your orders.

Knowing your child’s true condition can be the first step in lifting the weight you are carrying when trying to raise your child who is different.  Take note, there are other conditions such as hearing and seeing problems that can mimic symptoms of cognitive disability and learning disabilities.  If you are observing in your child, a significant number of traits mentioned in chapter 1 under children with learning disabilities or cognitive disabilities, be sure to contact a doctor or other health professional to assist you in diagnosing these problems in your child.  Of course, not all children with learning disabilities or a cognitive disability will experience some or all of these characteristics. Each child is different. 

      Often, when parents notice their child exhibiting behaviors descriptive of intellectual disabilities they grow concerned but are hesitant to seek help. This reluctance can be due to several reasons, among them fear of what the results may determine. Also, parents may not know whom they should present their questions to.  And then some parents refuse to accept that their child is exhibiting abnormal behavior.  However, once parents conclude that their child indeed does have a special need, they can then resolve to move ahead and attempt to find appropriate ways to manage their child’s disability. It can be a relief to know that your child’s unusual behaviors actually have a label or name that explains the peculiarity. It can also be reassuring to learn that you are not alone and other parents have children who share similar tendencies as your child.

            The importance of first, acknowledging your child’s disability, and then, learning about the aspects of her disability is crucial for the proper management of your child. A mother who refuses to accept that her child has irregular learning patterns or behaviors is less likely to seek out information on disabilities in general.   This lack of knowledge can cause some parents to misjudge a disabled child’s odd behavior for misconduct. Consequently, the child suffers unnecessarily through punishment, offensive remarks, and conditions that demand of her what she is incapable of executing.  Knowledge helps you understand why your child behaves as she does and what can be done about it.  Essentially, you learn how to manage your special child. 


Looks Can Be Deceiving

A common problem for some children with learning disabilities or mild to moderate cognitive disabilities is that they generally look “normal.”  Their physical features do not suggest there is anything different about them compared to children who are unaffected. You might be wondering how this can be a problem. It can be a problem because children with characteristic features that signify they have a disability are expected by those who associate with them, to behave in unconventional ways—even if their disability doesn’t warrant irregular behavior. Whereas, children who look “normal” are expected to act normal. And when they don’t, their strange behavior often leads to frequent misunderstandings and mislead assumptions on the part of those with whom these children come in contact.   Because of their normal appearance, the child’s inferior social skills or other odd behavior might be mistaken for rudeness, immaturity, or attention seeking behavior.  It can also mistakenly be perceived as a result of poor parenting.   

More excerpts continued, insha'Allah


Please click here to order  Your Challenging Muslim Child with Special Needs


Monday, March 28, 2016

April is National Autism Awareness Month--Learn more from Grandma Jeddah

April is National Autism Awareness Month

If you know or have a child with autism or other developmental disabilities, insha'Allah, you will find comfort in Grandma Jeddah's e-book:Your Challenging Muslim Child with Special Needs

Grandma Jeddah provides help for some of the most challenging problems of raising a child with special needs such as--
  • Coping with nonconstructive comments from family, friends, and others
  • Helping children develop a proper Islamic perspective of their disability
  • Finding successful discipline methods
  • Understanding the challenges siblings experience
  • And more!

Grandma Jeddah acknowledges that raising children with special needs places more than the average demands on the entire family. She provides loads of successful discipline techniques mothers can use to better manage the behavior of their children with special needs. 

Learn more at:http://www.grandmajeddah.com/Your-Challenging-Muslim-Child-with-Special-Needs-135.htm

Wednesday, March 23, 2016

Opposition Defiant Disorder (ODD) and Behavior: 5 Things You Need to Know as a Parent:

Opposition Defiant Disorder (ODD) and Behavior: 5 Things You Need to Know as a Parent: 
From: Empowering Parents
https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/odd-kids-and-behavior-5-things-you-need-to-know-as-a-parent/#

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Friday, March 18, 2016

Patience is a Virtue when Disciplining

Being Patient when disciplining your child helps you to discipline your child better, insha'Allah.
http://blog.islamiconlineuniversity.com/patience-is-a-virtue-when-disciplining/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Grandma Jeddah has Your Parenting Workshop Resources

Grandma Jeddah has Your Parenting Workshop Resources
http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

FAQ


Help for Your Parenting Workshop

If you are looking for Islamic based, effective parenting education resources for your parenting workshops, Grandma Jeddah provides parenting e-books to help Muslim parents discipline their children more effectively and more easily. She teaches parents how they can raise responsible Allah fearing children without hitting, shouting or shaming. 


Why Promote Parenting Training

​We want our children to grow up to be the leaders of tomorrow.  But more importantly, we want to give them what it takes to hold on to their religion and die pleasing Allah. Giving our children understanding, attention, and patience are critical aspects of disciplining our children to achieve this goal.  There are numerous examples from Quran and hadith that illustrate how we can raise our children without hitting, shouting or shaming. You will find some of those examples in Grandma Jeddah’s e-books and parenting resources—e-books, blog, website, YouTube videos, Face book, parenting articles, email newsletter, parenting links, and more.
You Remain in Charge

You remain independent and self directed with your self-designed and organized workshops, seminars or podcasts . . . Grandma Jeddah provides the resources you need to teach parents respectful and effective parenting techniques. You know best who your parents are, how they should be taught, and what instruction methods are most effective for them.  We provide you with what you don’t have – Islamic based parent disciplining resources.


What Topics Does Grandma Jeddah Cover in her e-Books?
Grandma Jeddah’s Parenting e-Books and resources cover a range of challenging as well as day-to-day discipline and parenting issues.  Her experience-based methods cover topics including managing children with special needs, controlling parental temper when disciplining, dealing with tantrums, dealing with children who have anger management issues, coping with excessively defiant children, learning effective discipline techniques and more.


Why Do Muslim Parents Need Parenting Resources Specifically for Them?

No one understands the particulars of raising Muslim children as do Muslims.  We have our own culture prescribed by the Quran and Prophet Muhammad (saw).  Parenting books written by non-Muslims have a wealth of information.  However, sometimes, the information itself or the way in which it is wrapped may not be suitable Islamically. 

​Certainly, not all secular parenting books and resources are adverse for reading.  In fact, Grandma Jeddah provides a useful list of such resources in her e-book, Discipline without Disrespecting and on her website, blog and Face book page.  Parents just need to be alert and cautious when reading.


What Topics are Covered in Grandma Jeddah’s e-Books?

Discipline without Disrespecting begins with a section explaining why children misbehave in the first place. Grandma Jeddah then discusses the characteristics of several types of special needs some children may have and the behavioral problems that can arise from these disabilities.  She cautions parents about harms of mistaking disability symptoms for misbehavior. She also presents in detail 25 discipline techniques parents can use to discipline their children without hitting, shouting, or shaming. She provides a short section on guiding Muslim teens. And she includes a segment on how parents can take care of themselves to become optimum parents.


What is an Example of a Technique Taught in Discipline without Disrespecting?

One of the simplest is the Star Chart system.  With this technique, parents develop an incentive chart to place stars on for goal behaviors their child performs, such as making salat on time.  Grandma Jeddah says one of the greatest mistakes parents make in training their children is failing to positively acknowledge the actual behavior they wish their child to perform.  The Start Chart system is a way of reminding the parent and child when the child is behaving appropriately, which encourages the child to continue this behavior and relinquish the inappropriate behavior.


​Can Discipline without Disrespecting Address Behavioral Problems with Children who have Severe Obstinate behavior?
Yes, certainly! In fact, professionals working with children who exhibit extremely uncooperative, defiant, and hostile behavior, strongly recommend the very methods mentioned in Discipline without Disrespecting.

Tell Me More about Grandma Jeddah.

Grandma Jeddah became a Muslim in 1979 while attending University of Southern California in Los Angeles California.  After marrying and having her first child, she began teaching at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, and presently teaches at the same school.   She has 11 children and 13 grandchildren.She is the author of over half a dozen parenting books. 

Her parenting e-books are recognized across 6 continents, and she has received accolades from tons of mothers for her parenting advice.She's written over 100 articles on parenting subjects and child related matters. She's had numerous articles printed in Sisters Magazine, Al-Ju'muah Magazine, Productive Muslim, ILM, InFocus Newspaper, The Muslim Family Magazine and a host of other media.   In addition, her children's stories have been printed in several juvenile magazines including Fandangle and Imagination CafeWhere Did Grandma Jeddah Get Her Information for the Discipline without Disrespecting Parenting e-books and her other Articles and Resources?
She gained her knowledge through researching parenting resources both secular and Islamic and applying her own personal experience with children on a daily basis including her students for over three decades, as well as her own 11 children and grandchildren.  All of this experience has come together beautifully in the fashioning of her parenting resources.


Why do Muslim Parents Need Knowledge from an Islamic Perspective regarding Parenting?
A lot of our parenting methods (for converts as well as those born Muslim) come from what was passed done culturally from their families.  Some of these methods may be appropriate islamically but others may not. Reading parenting books with concepts based upon Islam gives parents effective ways of parenting that are in accordance with our religion.


How to purchase Grandma Jeddah's Parenting e-books for Your Parenting Educational Programs or Workshops.
Click here to order Grandma Jeddah's Bonus Pack e-Books for your workshop, which include,  The Discipline without Disrespecting e-Book, e-Workbook, and e-Quick-Tip Guide. Learn more about all three e-books here.
All other resources are completely free including: 

 

1 blog posts,
2. hundreds of parenting links to articles, blogs, websites, videos, books and more.
3. Grandma Jeddah's You Tube videos
4. Grandma Jeddah's personal articles

To order your parenting Workshop e-Books please visit www.grandmajeddah.com

Tuesday, March 8, 2016

Parenting in Crisis

Parenting in Crisis

http://wideearth.us/parenting-in-crisis-creative-parenting-part-five/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Friday, March 4, 2016

It's Finally Here! The story of Prophet Yusuf 

Order a copy for your child now:
http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/main.sc
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AssalamuAlaikum Wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakatu Parents,

Grandma Jeddah is elated to produce her first children’s e-book for young readers, Prophet Yusuf. This chapter book for  to 12-year olds is written with age appropriate text and vocabulary. This makes reading more pleasurable and understandable for your child.

Allah says the story of Yusuf is the best of stories. Indeed—It is full of twists, excitement, lessons, and wisdom. You are sure to find valuable morals from Prophet Yusuf that you can use as points of discussion for you and your child. Issues such as jealousy, patience, forgiveness, honor, and taqua (fear of Allah) are important lessons your child will gain from Prophet Yusufinsha’Allah. 

The text is taken solely from the Quran and the pictures avoid images.
This story is a must to add to your collection of stories of the prophets for your children’s reading pleasure.

Grandma Jeddah hopes the joy your child gains from reading Prophet Yusuf will be an inspiration for him or her to open the Quran, read it, and learn from it.

Your Sister in Islam,

Grandma Jeddah

Thursday, March 3, 2016

Congratulations and Mabruk to Sister Noor Zuriati!

Congratulations and Mabruk to Sister Noor Zuriati!
She is the winner of Grandma Jeddah’s First Children’s e-Book Contest!
Her answer was the closest to how many pages are in Grandma Jeddah’s new e-book PROPHET YUSUF available tomorrow, Friday March 4 at http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/. Her guess was 55 and the number of pages is 60.

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Raising Tomorrows Leaders Today (Mufti Ismail Mentk)

Excellent Video-Please take the time to listen to these excellent parenting tips:
  1. Never cause your child to feel useless.
  2. Use respectful language with your child (Don't say "Shut up")
  3. Admonish your child in privacy.
  4. Don't expect your child to behave like an adult.
  5. And more. . .

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXe4tHlCad8

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html