Friday, August 26, 2016

A Special Gift for a Special Person (From: Grandma Jeddah)

Bismillah Arahman Araheem 

Abdullah ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.

It is narrated on the authority of Anas (r) that a woman, somewhat mentally defected, said,” O Messenger of Allah! I have a need that I want you to meet. He (s) responded, “O mother of so and so, choose the way you like to walk in so that I may know your need and meet it.” He walked with her in some route until she had her need fulfilled (Muslim).

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakatu,

This is Grandma JeddahAre you a parent raising a child with special needs or disabilities? It can certainly be a struggle. And once your child reaches adulthood, there are a host of other challenges that a parent must manage. You must tend to your adult child’s medical matters, financial matters, as well as the day-to-day management of your child and her disability.

Although we are Muslims and have the best way of life, sometimes the ostracism that disabled Muslim adults feel and experience can lead to a host of emotional and psychological problems—mental illness being one. Your adult child may also become incapacitated due to illness or medical treatment.  For these reasons, you, as well as your adult child with a disability, may wish for you to remain in control of your child’s medical and financial matters.

Creating a Financial or Medical Power of Attorney allows your adult child to choose someone else to act in your child’s place in case she becomes incapacitated due to mental illness, a medical illness, hospitalization, or some other situation. This “agent”—preferably you, the parent” can make financial and medical decisions for your adult child that by law only the adult child herself would be able to make. A Power of Attorney would prevent you from having to go to court to get the authority to handle your adult child’s affairs if the situation ever occurred in which you needed to. It would allow you to pay their bills, manage their bank account, decide on their medical treatment and other personal matters freely.  It is very much like a Conservatorship, but avoids your having to go to court, pay expensive court fees, and attend mandatory court accountability hearings.

Recently I received my American Bar Association approved paralegal certificate from West Los Angeles College. As you already may know, I have also taught at Al-Madinah School in Los Angeles for over 30 years. In addition, I have authored several Islamic parenting e-books, in particular one on raising children with special needs, Your Challenging Muslim Child with Special Needs

If you live in California, Grandma Jeddah can assist your Adult child in creating a FREE Durable Financial Power of Attorney form as well as a FREE Health Care Directive all online. I specialize in helping caregivers of adult children with disabilities and elderly parents who need assistance. I also assist in writing Islamic Last Wills. All of this is Free for members who have subscribed to Grandma Jeddah's Newsletter, Blog and Face book account.

If you should need a service such as mine, please don’t hesitate contacting me.  You may visit my website at--, and view my blog there for more detailed information on Power of Attorney. I also have free legal literature that I would be most happy to mail you to inform your adult child or elderly parents of laws that may affect their lives. The guides are The California Bar Association’s “When You Turn 18”, “Seniors and the Law”, and The National Institute of Aging’s guide “Caring for a Person with Alzheimer’s Disease”. If you would like one of these guides, please feel free to contact me. The first two are available in Spanish, as well.

Jazakalakhair for continuing to visit my Blog, Facebook and reading my newsletters.

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Grandma Jeddah (AKA): Sister Rose
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Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 15 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-books at:

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