Test of Special Needs Children

Test of Special Needs Children 

By Grandma Jeddah

There is no doubt--raising a child with special needs can be more challenging, stressful and exhausting than raising a child with normal range functioning.  As a Muslim, however, we know that the greater the test the greater the reward.  Raising a child with special needs gives you an opportunity to get so many blessings and rewards.  This is because you have to reach deep, down into your reserve of patience and tolerance to manage your child’s quirky mannerisms, outlandish behavior, and excessive dependence upon you.   Not to mention, you sometimes have to cope with uninformed, disapproving, and intolerant friends, relatives and strangers. So remember the following when you feel like you’re losing control of your household—and your sanity:

"And those who are patient, we will certainly pay them a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do." (Quran 16:96).

"If Allah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials." (Bukhari). 

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Ramadan: Teaching Children the Five Pillars

Ramadan: Teaching Children the Five Pillars (navedz.com)
http://navedz.com/2012/07/27/ramadan-teaching-children-the-five-pillars/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Learn to Ignore when Disciplining Your Child By Grandma Jeddah

Learn to Ignore when Disciplining Your Child 

By Grandma Jeddah

The Prophet (saw) used ignoring when he was displeased with the behavior of those under his charge on several occasions.  In one incident it involved his discontent with his wives, and he retreated to an upper room.  In another case he used it with three companions who neglected to attend the battle of Tabuk.³²

Ignoring can be an effective way to encourage compliance from your child or discourage him from continuing with inappropriate behavior.  Use Ignoring as an alternative to reprimanding and hitting. 

            Using the ignoring approach to discipline may initially lead to an escalation in your child’s inappropriate behavior.  Once your child sees you are not responding to his actions, he may ramp up his kicking, shouting or back talk to get your attention. 

Let’s say your 5-year-old son is upset because you won’t give him a second piece of your delicious banana bread.  He drops to the floor, sprawled out, bawling and flailing his legs and arms. As long as there is no danger to your child or others, wait it out.  Patience can be a virtue. 

When ignoring, be sure not to send signals with your face, body language or tone that indicate or suggest you are being affected by your child’s behavior.   Ignoring can be very effective with toddlers and even school-age children who throw tantrums. It might take several sessions of ignoring your child for him to learn that his behavior will not get the response he is striving for.   It can be well worth the wait, however. The most difficult part of this approach might be your difficulty remaining patient throughout the succession of episodes.

 Some common behaviors you can ignore are whining, temper tantrums, pouting, attempts at angering or hurting your feelings, and interrupting your conversations with others.  When your son’s annoying behavior ceases, take time to give him your attention.  It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate; let the situation guide your response.  But show him that appropriate behavior will gain him the attention he desires.  

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

How to Gain your Child's Trust

How to Gain your Child's Trust (effectiveislamicparenting.com)
http://www.effectiveislamicparenting.com/2013/04/how-to-gain-your-childs-trust/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Let Your Child Make Mistakes (grandmajeddah.com)

Let Your Child Make Mistakes (Grandma Jeddah)

Provide your child with the opportunity to make mistakes.  Making mistakes offers a chance to learn.  How should I do this again next time?   What did I do that caused this to happen?  Your child learns naturally due to her actions.  The difficult part is often for the parent--it can be a trying situation for a parent to know that the likely outcome for her child will be an unfortunate experience.  Letting go and allowing your child to learn from mistakes can be difficult, but it can be helpful for your child and result in less management and direction on your part . . .which means a bit of added ease for you.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Muslim Identity (outstandingmuslimparenting.com)

Muslim Identity (outstandingmuslimparenting.com)
http://outstandingmuslimparents.com/muslim-identity


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Parenting: An Islamic Perspective (a2youth.com)

Parenting: An Islamic Perspective (a2youth.com)
http://www.a2youth.com/articles/family_life/parenting_an_islamic_perspective/



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Islamic Way of Parenting (islam44.blogspot.com)

Islamic Way of Parenting (islam44.blogspot.com)
http://islam44.blogspot.com/2011/07/islamic-way-of-parenting.html

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com