Thursday, October 30, 2014

The Islamic View on Smacking (From: Effective Islamic Parenting, By: Mustapha, Himi)

The Islamic View on Smacking (From: Effective Islamic Parenting, By: Mustapha, Himi)
http://www.effectiveislamicparenting.com/2012/10/the-islamic-view-on-smacking-children/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Monday, October 27, 2014

Children/Teenagers & Discipline ( From: Islam. I Live for it, By: Cristina Mariam Ignad)

Children/Teenagers & Discipline ( From: Islam. I Live for it, By: Cristina Mariam Ignad)
http://islamiliveforit.blogspot.com/2010/11/childrenteenagers-discipline.html

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Friday, October 24, 2014

I Have Become a Father! What's Next? (From:Productive Muslim, By:Dawood Vaid)

I Have Become a Father! What's Next? (From:Productive Muslim, By:Dawood Vaid)

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Starting a Parenting Group or Workshop? Grandma Jeddah can Help, Insha'Allah.

Starting a Parenting Group or Workshop?



Get Resource Help from Grandma Jeddah


Do you have an interest in teaching others?
Do you have strong leadership skills? 
Are you interested in organizing parenting training workshops?
Do you have a relationship with Islamic schools, Muslim women’s groups, or Muslim family counseling projects? 

Grandma Jeddah can help you make your workshop become a reality, insha'Allah. 

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FAQ

Help for Your Parenting Workshop

If you are looking for Islamic based, effective parenting education resources for your parenting workshops, Grandma Jeddah provides parenting e-books to help Muslim parents discipline their children more effectively and more easily. She teaches parents how they can raise responsible Allah fearing children without hitting, shouting or shaming. 


Why Promote Parenting Training

​We want our children to grow up to be the leaders of tomorrow.  But more importantly, we want to give them what it takes to hold on to their religion and die pleasing Allah. Giving our children understanding, attention, and patience are critical aspects of disciplining our children to achieve this goal.  There are numerous examples from Quran and hadith that illustrate how we can raise our children without hitting, shouting or shaming. You will find some of those examples in Grandma Jeddah’s e-booksand parenting resources—e-books, blog, website, YouTube videos, Face book, parenting articles, email newsletter, parenting links, and more.

You Remain in Charge

You remain independent and self directed with your self-designed and organized workshops, seminars or podcasts . . . Grandma Jeddah provides the resources you need to teach parents respectful and effective parenting techniques. You know best who your parents are, how they should be taught, and what instruction methods are most effective for them.  We provide you with what you don’t have – Islamic based parent disciplining resources.


What Topics Does Grandma Jeddah Cover in her e-Books?
Grandma Jeddah’s Parenting e-Books and resources cover a range of challenging as well as day-to-day discipline and parenting issues.  Her experience-based methods cover topics including managing children with special needs, controlling parental temper when disciplining, dealing with tantrums, dealing with children who have anger management issues, coping with excessively defiant children, learning effective discipline techniques and more.


Why Do Muslim Parents Need Parenting Resources Specifically for Them?

No one understands the particulars of raising Muslim children as do Muslims.  We have our own culture prescribed by the Quran and Prophet Muhammad (saw).  Parenting books written by non-Muslims have a wealth of information.  However, sometimes, the information itself or the way in which it is wrapped may not be suitable Islamically. 

​Certainly, not all secular parenting books and resources are adverse for reading.  In fact, Grandma Jeddah provides a useful list of such resources in her e-book, Discipline without Disrespecting and on her website, blog and Face book page.  Parents just need to be alert and cautious when reading.


What Topics are Covered in Grandma Jeddah’s e-Books?

Discipline without Disrespecting begins with a section explaining why children misbehave in the first place. Grandma Jeddah then discusses the characteristics of several types of special needs some children may have and the behavioral problems that can arise from these disabilities.  She cautions parents about harms of mistaking disability symptoms for misbehavior. She also presents in detail 25 discipline techniques parents can use to discipline their children without hitting, shouting, or shaming. She provides a short section on guiding Muslim teens. And she includes a segment on how parents can take care of themselves to become optimum parents.


What is an Example of a Technique Taught in Discipline without Disrespecting?

One of the simplest is the Star Chart system.  With this technique, parents develop an incentive chart to place stars on for goal behaviors their child performs, such as making salat on time.  Grandma Jeddah says one of the greatest mistakes parents make in training their children is failing to positively acknowledge the actual behavior they wish their child to perform.  The Start Chart system is a way of reminding the parent and child when the child is behaving appropriately, which encourages the child to continue this behavior and relinquish the inappropriate behavior.


​Can Discipline without Disrespecting Address Behavioral Problems with Children who have Severe Obstinate behavior?
Yes, certainly! In fact, professionals working with children who exhibit extremely uncooperative, defiant, and hostile behavior, strongly recommend the very methods mentioned in Discipline without Disrespecting.

Tell Me More about Grandma Jeddah.

Grandma Jeddah became a Muslim in 1979 while attending University of Southern California in Los Angeles California.  After marrying and having her first child, she began teaching at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, and presently teaches at the same school.   She has 11 children and 13 grandchildren.She is the author of over half a dozen parenting books. 

Her parenting e-books are recognized across 6 continents, and she has received accolades from tons of mothers for her parenting advice.She's written over 100 articles on parenting subjects and child related matters. She's had numerous articles printed in Sisters Magazine, Al-Ju'muah Magazine, Productive Muslim, ILM, InFocus Newspaper, The Muslim Family Magazine and a host of other media.   In addition, her children's stories have been printed in several juvenile magazines including Fandangle and Imagination CafeWhere Did Grandma Jeddah Get Her Information for the Discipline without Disrespecting Parenting e-books and her other Articles and Resources?
She gained her knowledge through researching parenting resources both secular and Islamic and applying her own personal experience with children on a daily basis including her students for over three decades, as well as her own 11 children and grandchildren.  All of this experience has come together beautifully in the fashioning of her parenting resources.


Why do Muslim Parents Need Knowledge from an Islamic Perspective regarding Parenting?
A lot of our parenting methods (for converts as well as those born Muslim) come from what was passed done culturally from their families.  Some of these methods may be appropriate islamically but others may not. Reading parenting books with concepts based upon Islam gives parents effective ways of parenting that are in accordance with our religion.


How to purchase Grandma Jeddah's Parenting e-books for Your Parenting Educational Programs or Workshops.
Click here to order Grandma Jeddah's Bonus Pack e-Books for your workshop, which include,  The Discipline without Disrespecting e-Book, e-Workbook, and e-Quick-Tip Guide. Learn more about all three e-books here.
All other resources are completely free including: 

1. Monthly newsletter (by subscription) 
2. weekly emails (through newsletter subscription)
3. weekly blog posts,
4. hundreds of parenting links to articles, blogs, websites, videos, books and more.
5. Grandma Jeddah's personal You Tube videos
6. Grandma Jeddah's personal articles
​7. Newsletter archives . . . and more . . . 
Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

What if You've Made Mistakes as a Parent? (From: Aha! Parenting, From: Dr. Laura Markham)

What if You've Made Mistakes as a Parent? (From: Aha! Parenting, From: Dr. Laura Markham)
http://www.ahaparenting.com/_blog/Parenting_Blog/post/unconditional_love_parent_mistake/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Blog our Books – Get a FREE e-Book

Blog our Books – Get a FREE e-Book

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Friday, October 17, 2014

5 Steps to Goal Setting to Get Homework Done (By: Jameela Ho)

5 Steps to Goal Setting to Get Homework Done
Jameela Ho

What are the things that your children like to put off doing? Most likely it is doing their household chores or their homework. Wouldn't it be wonderful to get your children to do these things without having to nag them to it? If only they could just tidy their rooms by themselves, vacuum the floor and take out the garbage when they see that these things needs to be done. If only they could just sit at their desk, open their books and do their homework of their own accord.

So how do you get your children to not put off doing what needs to be done? Nagging has never worked and external rewards and punishments only work for a short time. What they need is something they can use to regulate themselves instead of some external enforcers doing it for them.
The most empowering way to encourage your child to be more responsible is to teach your child goal setting.

There are five steps:

1. Establish Goals
Be Specific: Ask your child to write down what he needs to do. He should be specific and detailed. “Doing homework” is too general because it could mean any homework. “Finish math homework early” would be better.

Use “I am”: Include the pronoun “I” as though he has already achieved it, such as “I am going to successfully finish my math homework early.”

Phrase it Positively: Make sure that the goals are positively phrased. Change anything that is negative into positive. If he writes “I will not waste time” then change it to “I make the best use of my time.”

Once your child has his goals written down, have him read them out loud and revisit them each day. By reading them each day, his mind can be refreshed and he can continue to be motivated.

2. Find Strategies
The second step is to find ways he can reach his goals. So have him brainstorm and think of as many ways he can. Write them down. It doesn’t matter how ridiculous or silly they are, because once he has exhausted all his ideas, he can go through each one and select the ones that are most effective and efficient for his goals.

Here is an example of how to create a strategy. Ask your child to think of all the ways he could successfully finish his math homework. Maybe he could first have a snack then sit at his desk and begin his math homework. If he has other homework, such as English, he could get another snack before starting on the English assignment. He could continue on in this manner.

It is very important here that your child comes up with his own strategies so that he can own it and motivate himself to follow through, otherwise you might as well not use this approach as you would be providing your child with your own rules to follow (which is often ineffective with some children).

Once your child has listed all his ideas and decided which ones would best serve his goals, you can question him about whether his ideas are appropriate or not. Ask questions you don’t know the answers to, otherwise you might unintentionally direct him toward your own personal ideas, which might lessen his motivation.

Don’t worry about immediate success. Allow your child to work by trial and error, which can be an effective method of learning. To help him determine success or failure, there is the review in Step 4 in which you can ask him how things are going. If things aren’t working out as planned, he should revise and choose a better strategy.

3. Set deadlines
Your child needs to set a time limit for his goals. This will encourage him to complete his goals in a timely manner, as there is an urgency to do so. “I will successfully finish my math homework early before dinnertime,” gives him a deadline to work towards. “I will make the best use of my time every day before 7 o’clock” gives him a definite goal to work towards, as well.

4. Chart Progress
Make a time chart for Monday through Friday. Have your child keep a record of the times he finishes his homework each day. At the end of the week, review the chart. Ask your child if he reached his objective for each day. If he did, he should determine what made that possible and if he didn’t, he should determine what stopped him from fulfilling it. He should then brainstorm again or look back at the list from Step 2 and choose a different strategy to reach the goal. Keep refining the strategies until your child has found the perfect one for accomplishing his goal.

5. Celebrate Success
The last step is to celebrate any success that your child has made. So at the end of the week, if he successfully accomplished his goals, he can choose a reward. Get him to make a list of rewards that he would like to celebrate with. It should be something sufficient enough to get him excited and motivated to keep going, yet not too excessive like a party. The reward could be extra time on the internet, a movie, or a few hours free time to do whatever he likes without interruption– whatever your child comes up with that is reasonable. Each week he can choose from this list.

This process is similar to the rewards (Behaviour Chart) system parents use, but instead of parents determining what and how children should accomplish their goals (and behaviours) it puts the power into the child’s hands, and they decide what they need to do and how to get themselves there. This not only empowers them but it also motivates.
If you like this article and want to apply it to your own goals then please grab your copy of my book ‘Successfully Done: 16 Easy Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Finally Reach Your Goals’ at Amazon http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00O2GXVGS  Get started because I want to help you achieve your goals.

Bio:
Jameela Ho firmly believes that every child should have access to quality education and that parents can provide it with a little help. Throughout her years as a teacher, her passion has been helping children learn and helping parents get the same training as teachers.

Parents often feel frustrated and anxious about their children's education. They are genuinely concerned about helping but feel helpless because of a lack of knowledge or skills. For this reason, Jameela offers consultations and workshops to simplify teaching and parenting, both online and offline, as well as an education centre called 'ILMA Education' to teach children and parents.

If you are a parent (or teacher) who needs the tools to help your children, then please visit http://jameelaho.wordpress.com and http://ilmaeduplay.blogger.com.au or send me a message and we can discuss how I can help you.


Sunday, October 12, 2014

MuslimommyMuslimdaddy Interviews Grandma Jeddah

MuslimommyMuslimdaddy Founder Interviews 

Grandma Jeddah

MuslimommyMuslimdaddy and Muslim Kids Digest Founder Reveals 20 Q&A's You Never Knew about Grandma Jeddah


What a warm pleasure to be interviewed by the author of one of the most creative, exciting  and enjoyable websites online, Please enjoy the interview, and find out what Grandma Jeddah considers the best and worst part of parenting.

Monday, October 6, 2014

Why Adrian Peterson Went too Far (From:CBS, By: Shan Shariff)

Why Adrian Peterson Went too Far (From:CBS, By: Shan Shariff)
An interesting perspective on the child abuse case of professional football player Adrian  Peterson.
Ever heard the phrase "I was hit when I was a kid. . . and I turned out alright"?
http://dfw.cbslocal.com/2014/09/13/why-adrian-peterson-went-too-far/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

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