Marriage Advice for Young Muslim Women

https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Financial-Dependance-Muslim-Woman/dp/B0FDL82D1D/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 

This book presents a perspective of marriage for young Muslim women that is missing in the general society today, but well needed. 

Calling Children Bad Names (By Grandma Jeddah)

Last Excerpt From-- 

How to Discipline Children the Islamic Way

By Grandma Jeddah

The Way The Prophet (saw) Interacted with Children

According to hadith, Anas Ibn Malik said, “I served the Prophet (saw) for ten years, and he never hit me, insulted me or frowned in my face." (Muslim)

          This hadith is truly amazing. It’s amazing because children are children. Nature doesn’t change. Youngsters can be disruptive, forgetful, irresponsible and annoying at times. This hadith clearly tells us how patient the Prophet (saw) was with the young children around him. Not only did the Prophet (saw) avoid hitting according to this hadith, he also avoided using hurtful words.

Avoid name calling

According to hadith, the Prophet (saw) said “A Muslim is the one from whose hands and tongue other Muslims are safe.” (Tirmidhi) When disciplining your child, know that name calling and speaking abusively should be avoided. Allah says in Quran 49:11: O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the (latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.

          Some parents make little of calling their children names such as stupid, dumb or crazy. They don’t consider it a serious offence or find it a need for concern. However, this ayat from Quran, lets us know in clear terms that calling our children hurtful words that humiliate them is wrong and should be avoided. So not only should we shun hitting, we should also ensure that we speak to our children respectfully. 

Order and read the entire book and view the entire video today, insha'Allah at: http://www.grandmajeddah.com/How-to-Discipline-Children-the-Islamic-Way-Video-e-Book-129.htm

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-books at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

How to Discipline Children the Islamic Way: Limits on Hitting (By Grandma Jeddah)

Excerpt From-- 

How to Discipline Children the Islamic Way

By Grandma Jeddah

Sheikh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen

Sheikh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) has said the following regarding hitting children at 10-years for failure to pray:

Hit only when effective

“The command implies that it is obligatory, but it is limited only to cases where smacking will be beneficial, because sometimes you smack a child but he does not benefit from being smacked, it only makes him scream and cry more and does not serve any benefit. Moreover, what is meant by smacking here is smacking that is not painful, a light smack that serves the purpose and does not cause any harm ⁴.”

So hitting, some scholars explain, is required only when it will achieve the desired result— compliance. If the effect of hitting will lead to more misbehavior rather than obedience, then spanking should be avoided. Because certain children do not respond favorably to hitting, it is to the mother’s benefit that she learn alternative discipline methods that can help encourage her children to comply.

Avoid hitting when angry

Some scholars also state that hitting should be avoided when angry. Most parents have probably experienced an incident or two in which their child’s misconduct infuriated them.  A parent who is angry is more likely to hit her child out of frustration rather than for the purpose of guiding the child to do what is right. Hitting due to frustration, anger, sadness or whatever malady the parent might be experiencing at the time, are not valid reasons to hit your child. We can see the wisdom in the hadith that quotes the Prophet (saw) as saying, “No one should judge between others when he is in a state of anger” (Bukhari).

         

Do not hit the face

As mentioned previously, hitting children in the face is completely forbidden in Islam.  Here are two hadith which clarify the issue of hitting in the face:  According to one hadith the Prophet (saw) said, “When any one of you fights, let him avoid (striking) the face.” (Bukhari)

          According to another hadeeth, narrated by Abu Bakrah and others, a woman committed adultery, and the Prophet (saw) commanded she be stoned to death, and said, ‘Stone her, but avoid the face. (Abu Dawood)

          This hadith clearly tells us that even when punishing someone, the person should not be hit in the face.

Limited number of strikes

Another stipulation regarding hitting is that parents should limit the number of times they hit their child when disciplining him. This limit is no more than10 strikes. Others have limited it to 3 strikes, and Allahu Alim. According to a hadith narrated by Abu Burdah al-Ansaari, he heard the Prophet (saw) say: “No one should be given more than ten lashes of the whip except in the case of one of the hadd punishments prescribed by Allah.” (Bukhari)

          This stipulation is paramount, as it can help minimize chances of hurting or injuring your child when hitting him. 

          Are you now beginning to develop a new and greater understanding regarding the permissibility and parameters of hitting your child when disciplining him?  When disciplining with hitting, you should keep in mind the following conditions:

·        Avoid causing injury

·        Avoid causing pain

·        Avoid harshness

·        Avoid hitting in the face

·        Avoid hitting as a first option

·        Avoid using more than 10 strikes.

·        Avoid using when angry

·        Avoid hitting when child will not respond with proper behavior

Now we will look at the way in which The Prophet (saw) interacted with young children.

Order and read the entire book and view the entire video today, insha'Allah at: http://www.grandmajeddah.com/How-to-Discipline-Children-the-Islamic-Way-Video-e-Book-129.htm

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-books at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

Can Passion to Guide Your Children Lead to Abuse? By Grandma Jeddah

Excerpt From-- 

How to Discipline Children the Islamic Way

By Grandma Jeddah

Introduction

This book is for Muslim parents who are concerned about raising their children up as good Muslims. It was written for these parents, but its intent is not to present what they should teach their children. The purpose of this book is to offer parents an awareness of the manner in which they should guide their children toward virtuous lifestyles. It’s for those parents who want to guide their children to what’s right but also want to direct in ways that have been encouraged in our religion. These parents wish to avoid instructing in ways that are contrary to our religion.

 Many Muslim parents today (converts as well as those born into Islam) discipline their children according to their family’s cultural traditions rather than Islamic culture. Some of these traditional methods may be appropriate Islamically--others may not.   Muslims are generally fervent in wanting their children to grow up as obedient and God fearing Muslims. Sometimes this passion can lead to excesses and even transgressions when disciplining. One of the most common present day customary methods of training children is the use of corporal punishment.

 

Few or no Resources

When I first became Muslim, I was one of those parents who used physical discipline on a regular basis. I had only my family background to use as a reference point when raising my children.

There were no English Islamic books written at the time which provided New Muslim parents with Islamically based methods of child discipline . . . at least none that I knew of.

          And when I observed those around me, I noticed that some Muslim parents found little hesitation in slapping their children in the face. Calling children derogatory names wasn’t off the list either. So as a new Muslim convert, to me, my methods of disciplining my children seemed normal and not contrary to Islam.

Alhamdullilah, presently, a host of Islamic books, articles, lectures, aswell as websites and blogs offer Muslim parents guidance as to how we as Muslims should direct our children toward proper behavior. These teachings explain that the Quran and our Prophet Muhammad (saw) discouraged harsh discipline, hitting in the face, and the use of disparaging remarks when correcting children.

Things have changed greatly, by the Mercy of Allah, from those decades eons ago when I began raising my family. There is an abundance of parenting information on the negative effectives of being excessively harsh when disciplining our children from both Islamic as well as secular sources.  

This book, How to Discipline Children the Islamic Way introduces parents to some of the Islamic references that suggest the manner in which we should instruct our children. It raises parents’ awareness to the possibility that many of the methods they may be using to manage their child’s behavior may be a result of cultural habit, rather than religious instruction. There are many examples from the Prophet’s (saw) manner of correcting that guide us to the conclusion that when disciplining our children, we should be patient, kind and gentle.

I’m sure many of you are thinking about the hadith that mentions hitting your children at 10 if they don’t pray.  Don’t worry— we will discuss that later in the book, Insha’Allah. Many parents might also be wondering—how do you raise a child without hitting him. That is somewhat beyond the scope of this book. However, suffice it to say there are loads of ways to correct children without hitting and shouting at them. You can find over 25 ways to discipline your child without hitting or shouting in my e-book Discipline without Disrespecting:; Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child—And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It. www.grandmajeddah.com

May Allah bless us all to use teaching methods that are most pleasing to Him, when raising our children to be good Muslims.

Order and read the entire book and view the entire video today, insha'Allah at: http://www.grandmajeddah.com/How-to-Discipline-Children-the-Islamic-Way-Video-e-Book-129.htm

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-books at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

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Discussing the Birds and Bees (From: Happy Muslim Mama, By: Umm Salihah

Discussing the Birds and Bees
http://www.happymuslimah.com/2013/10/discussing-birds-and-bees-part-2.html

Includes titles of some excellent Islamic based books on the topic-although Grandma Jeddah hasn't read them herself.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Does Your Teen Need Some Guidance?

Does Your Teen Need Some Guidance?

You heard it from friends and family when the kids were toddlers:  

"You think the terrible twos are bad . . .  just wait until they are teens!"

Well now your kids are teens and boy were they right! You never imagined it would be this difficult. Of course no isolated book has all the solutions to help your teen with his or her life problems other than Quran.  Grandma Jeddah's newest e-book, Mom, I'm stressed: Stress Help for Muslim Teens and Youth, guides your child back to the principles of Islam to solve their everyday stresses . . . and hopefully, make life a little bit easier for Mom, too!

With an Islamic perspective, Grandma Jeddah guides your child with practical steps for managing some of the most common problems youth are struggling with today, from drug use to feeling sad and depressed.

It's well known that the present generation has no time for long drawn out explanations, so the book is quick and easy reading.  Look for it next week, insha'Allah.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Child Abuse and the Muslim Community (From: MentalHealth4Muslims)

Child Abuse and the Muslim Community (From: MentalHealth4Muslims)
http://mentalhealth4muslims.com/2010/06/27/child-abuse-the-muslim-community/#&panel1-8

This is an excerpt from Grandma Jeddah’s e-Book: Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child—And Keep Your Peace of Mind While at It.  To order her e-Book or receive her free newsletter, visit her at: http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  or   http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Coping with an Ill-Tempered Child (From: Islamic Finder, From Shaiku Salman Al-awdah)

Coping with an Ill-Tempered Child (From: Islamic Finder, From Shaiku Salman Al-awdah)
http://www.islamicfinder.org/articles/article.php?id=266&lang=english

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Insightful Quotes from Newest e-Book PARENTS RETIRE, PARENTING DOES NOT

Insightful Quotes from Newest e-Book PARENTS RETIRE, PARENTING DOES NOT

1.The status of parents was elevated by Islam, owing to parental care, sacrifices, and concern for their children, as well as parental effort in the proper upbringing of their children.  But unfortunately, parents have become more focused on careers and friends than their families."

2."Harvard, Oxford, and Cambridge have failed to produce a civilization of conscientious citizens."

3."We have a generation of academically strong, but psychologically weak graduates."

4."Material prosperity in terms of high salary, huge apartments, lavish cars, and branded devices cannot provide a foundation for a happy family."

5. "Many parents are failing to identify their children's problems. Many do not even realize that their child is asking for emotional attention and is suffering in silence."

6. Children are among the most valuable assets of society, but if they are neglected they can turn into liabilities not just for their families but for the entire society as well.

Parenting is a full time, lifetime duty, that deserves priority - let's grab the reigns with gusto and guide our children into the new frontier as strong Muslims who are psychologically and emotionally sound, insha'Allah.

Purchase your new book here: http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/Parents-Retire-Parenting-Does-Not-143.htm

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

FUN CONTEST - WIN NEW E-BOOK!

FUN CONTEST - WIN NEW E-BOOK!

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1. List 7 pieces of advice Luqman gave to his son.
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Guest Interview of Brother Nisaar Nadiadwala, Author of I Want to Marry, But. . .

Guest Interview of Brother Nisaar Nadiadwala, Author of I Want to Marry, But . . .
Find out what inspired him to write I Want to Marry, But . . .
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Does your daughter need hijab encouragement? Then you'll enjoy Grandma Jeddah's Book Review and Interview of Fatimah Ibrahim, author of The Beauty of My Hijab 
http://www.grandmajeddah.com/book-review-fatimah.html

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  order her books or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --

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THE MUSLIM FAMILY GUIDE TO THE EARLY YEARS (0-5 Years)

Enjoy this informative and enlightening interview with Umm Safiyyah, author of THE MUSLIM FAMILY GUIDE TO THE EARLY YEARS (0-5 Years)
http://www.grandmajeddah.com/tips.html

Umm Safiyyah: Author of

The Muslim Family Guilde to the Early Years

(0-5 Years)

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We are very pleased to have as our guest Umm Safiyyah Bint Najmaddin author of The Muslim Parents Guide to the Early Years. Umm Safiyyah has written a wonderful book full of helpful ideas on parenting young Muslim children and more. This book is a must have for mothers in need of ways to enrich their children’s environment both secularly and Islamically.

Thank you so much and Jazakalakhair for joining us Umm Safiyyah.  
Tell us a little bit about yourself and your background. 

I was born in London, England in a private and conservative home with 2 brothers. I had a lot of contact with my first cousins (there were around 50 of them) and this compensated for the quietness of the home. Hence, I have always been surrounded by children. Naturally, straight after high school, this led me to acquire a Diploma in Child Care and Education. 

After working with children as a student assistant in schools and as a nursery nurse in private day care for a few years, I wanted to examine and gain a deeper understanding and knowledge of children. This led me to study a degree in psychology as I had a particular interest in child development. 

During my degree, I took a few gap years as I was expecting my first child. Throughout this time, I had encountered many other mothers who required help and direction in combining education and Islam. This was something that I was also struggling with. I could not locate any books at the time, which prompted me to do something about it. As a result of this, I wrote the book “Muslim Parents Guide to the Early Years.” 

After my degree and having 2 children, I identified another gap in which Muslim families needed help. This was with children who were or had previously suffered with some sort of distress or trauma. Due to my background, experience and knowledge of psychology, I wrote the book “Supporting Young Children through Distressing Times.” 

How long have you been a nursery nurse and what led you into this field?
I have been professionally involved with children for a good 12 years. I have worked as a nursery nurse and early year’s practitioner in a private nursery for approximately five years and as a nursery teacher for one year in a private Muslim school. Over the years, I have also carried out one-to-one tuitions, run a toddler group, held a crèche for a Muslim retreat dawah institute and mosque, and supported mothers with creating ideas for their child’s development through activities. Having a large extended family with many young cousins has resulted in me always being been around children. I have always had a caring nature, and I knew that I wanted to work with children one day. 

At the age of 16, high school was coming to a close and so I looked at courses that included children. With the encouragement of my father, I decided to enrol on the course. I assumed that working as a nursery nurse; I would soon study further and become a qualified teacher. However, I found myself comfortable working in the Early Years and hope to extend my knowledge and experience with others to support the Muslim Ummah through literature, and inshallah other business ventures. 

How many children do you have and what are their ages? 
I have three girls. A curious 5 year old who is into martial arts, a sensitive three year old who loves sparkles and a noisy 4 week old that does not let mummy get much sleep. 

What have you found to be the biggest challenge in raising your children aged 0 to 5? 
​Every mother has different challenges that they face, from tantrums, feeding difficulties to their child’s personalities. Personally, my biggest challenge is keeping my children remaining children. With the constant media entertainment, my children may pick up bad habits and be exposed to things such as magic and romance. 
Although I try my best to control it within my household by doing things like not having a television in the house, things such as educational material on the internet or DVDs still include such things. I would rather that my young children were not exposed to these things just yet.

 Sometimes I am torn - do I let them watch it? Or do I shield them from it? However I have learnt to carefully and clearly explain the things that are real, and what others do differently in order for them to understand. This prevents them from thinking that the things they see are the norm, and it protects them from being influenced. Therefore I take the opportunity to educate them about the world we live in.

How can mothers with numerous children give each child the personal time he/or she needs? 
​It is different for each family as it depends on the age and number of children in the family. For example in my case, having a new born and two home-schooled children under five can be a challenge. It’s really about trying to find that balance and understanding of each child’s individual needs. For instance, do they need emotional attention? Help with homework? A constant crying baby needs to be held? Here are some points I would recommend:

1  Having family or social support always helps. For example having your mother, friend or husband look after the other children while you give attention to one.

2 When you are in conversation or helping one child with their homework, make it clear to the other children that they should not interrupt. This will enable them to learn when it is their turn that they will not be interrupted.

3  If they are close together in age, spend time together doing something that requires them to take turns. This will allow you to give direct attention to one child at a time. You can do this by playing games. When they get the right answer, show excitement and direct eye contact.

4 Plan ahead and organise your day.

5 Distract other children with things they may enjoy such as a toys, programme or set up an art and craft activity for them whilst giving attention to another child.

6  Use nap times as a tool. When one child is asleep, give another child their personal time.

In your book, you mention reasons why children may be disruptive. Can you please mention some of those reasons for our audience? 
​Disruptive behaviour does not necessarily mean the child is out of control or “bad,” as there are many reasons why a child may act this way. Sometimes it is simply because children cannot express themselves which leads to frustration or it could be something you may not even be aware of, such as abuse. Therefore getting to the bottom of the problem is easy such as a child who is hungry but cannot express it. This can  lead them to become disruptive. On the other hand, a child who may have been emotionally abused will take longer for you to understand their reactions during the day. Another example I provide in my book is that a child may merely be impatient, imitating someone or even just bored. In more serious cases of disruptive behaviour other than abuse is a child reacting to problems at home between husband and wife or even other traumas.  
You also give constructive ways of managing disruptive behavior. What are some of those ways? 
Different children will act out in various ways and for many reasons as mentioned above. Trying to control this behaviour can be a real challenge at times. There are many methods of supporting children through this behaviour, one of which is through sticker charts.

 Most young children love stickers especially if it is something they like such as flowers and butterflies. Having a chart on the wall at their level of height will allow them to see their progress and remind them of what they are achieving. If they do something good or for example become disruptive just before bed time because they do not want to brush their teeth, they could be motivated and rewarded by putting a sticker on their chart, this will elevate their self-esteem and make them realise that actually brushing teeth is not so bad! 

Another method is having time out. This is where you ask a child to sit away from everyone for a little while (however keeping an eye on them to make sure they are safe) and ask them to think about what they have just done. Rather than calling it a naughty corner and developing low self esteem, you can explain to the children that it is time to reflect on what they have just done.

​ For example if the reason for them being in time out is because they were discourteous to you, make sure that they understand this reasoning and learn the appropriate way that they should have acted. 
In your book, you speak about the need for developing a daily plan. Can you please elaborate more on this? 
There are different ways to construct plans depending on how you like to organise your day and how busy you usually are. Having things written down helps one with goals during the day and acts as a guide for that day. In my book, I mention a simplified daily plan which consists of things I would like to do in the morning, afternoon and evening rather than having it timed. I also mention how things can overlap each other during the day. 

For example, one of the things that you may have to do during the afternoon is shopping but you would also like to teach your child something new. You can make this a fun and educational trip for your child and get your shopping done in time to get home to cook. By combining the experience, it means that you do not have to sit with them at home to teach them. 

Young children learn and absorb information better when they are playing or actually in the situation. For example when in the car on the way to the shop, you can recite dua and Quran. When you are in the shop you can also talk about the vegetables and fruits that are going into the shopping trolley or let them help you by letting them hold the shopping list and reading it together. This will help to stimulate and educate your child about the world around them rather than continuously telling them not to touch the items on the shelves. This plan will help you organise your day and make the most out of it so that you have spare time to rest or do other things for yourself.

Please share with us a sample of what one of your own daily plans looks like. 
As I home school my children, my plan becomes a must. In the morning I look to do the messy play and get it out of the way such as art and craft, paint, play dough, clay etc. Afternoon is usually Islam mixed in with English, science and maths depending on the Islamic subject. 

For example if we are looking at prophet Yunis and the whale, I then expand this to looking at different sea creatures and their sizes using maths and science. We read, learn new sea animal words and practice writing a letter or so from that animal, which is using the subject of English. In the evening, this is their father time where he sometimes takes them to the mosque, does exercises with them, reads the Quran or just spends time bonding. The plans do change when I need to go shopping or am invited to family or friends houses, but I always allow it all to be a learning experience. 
Please leave some words of wisdom for our audience.       
​Our children are our amanah from Allah. Therefore we should guide them towards the Quran and Sunnah to the best of our ability; and what best time to do that then when they are young and still under our care. This can be done through many avenues such as teaching them how we should act as humans, praying, what is harmful for the body and what is good, giving tidings of peace when you see another Muslim, understanding the Quran and not only memorising it and so forth. 

This can be challenging and draining for a mother but Allah will reward you for your patience. One should also remember that it is not only guiding them to the certainty of Allah but also allowing them to feel that love and connection for Allah and the prophet Mohammed peace be upon him in an instinctive, natural manner rather than just perceiving it as a “set of rules.” This will allow them to nurture the next generation and many to come Insha’Allah. 


We would like to thank Umm Safiyyah for taking time out of her busy schedule to share some of her experiences and wisdom with us. You can pick up a copy of her book by clicking the cover above, or looking it up online, insha'Allah. 


Jazakalakhair, Umm Safiyyah. And may Allay bless you and your family with the good of this world and the hereafter and protect you from the hellfire.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Don't Miss It - Thursday May 22, 2014

Don't Miss It! 
Grandma Jeddah interviews Umm Safiyyah bin Najmuddin, author of 
The Muslim Parent's Guide to the Early Years (0-5 years)
Find it on Grandma Jeddah's website on Thursday, May 22, insha'Allah. See you there, insha'Allah! http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com