Ramadan Activities for Children

Ramadan Activities for Children
http://intheplayroom.co.uk/2013/06/14/ramadan-activities-for-children/


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 12 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Avoid Hitting

                                                 Avoid Hitting

                                                 by Grandma Jeddah

Because ADHD is a developmental disorder that makes it difficult for your child to exercise self-control, you will find yourself facing situations in which your child exhibits defiant behavior, behaves excessively aggressive, or confronts you with arrogance.  Avoid the easy, habitual response of hitting your child when he opposes your instructions or violates others’ rights.  Spanking can escalate negative behavior in kids with ADHD.  The long term negative effects can be counterproductive.

People look forward to pleasing those who treat them well.  If your friend smacks you and talks to you in a rude manner, would you be inclined to fulfilling her requests?  Not only would you be adverse to it, but it’s highly unlikely you would voluntarily do as she asks unless you were compelled.  And if your “friend” forced you to perform the request, you would be resentful and want to get back at her somehow. Your children are no different.

Your child may disagree with your reasoning regarding an order or request. But, if you make your request in a kind, respectful yet determined way, he is more likely to respond to your instruction.  He is also more likely to do his best at the job. He will be more open to obeying. 

 Parents sometimes hit their children because they are angry or under added stress. Hitting when angry can become a habit. You may begin to view hitting as your primary source of discipline. When hitting is your main or only method of disciplining, it is very easy for you to cross the line from hitting to abusing.

If you’ve already hit your child once for sneaking into the kitchen to get a cookie, what will you do the next time he does it—hit him more times and harder?  This is particularly a problem with special needs children who have problems controlling their impulses and act out often.  These types of children are more likely to receive abusive treatment from their parents because they have more difficulty controlling their own behavior than the average child.  


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Ramadan for Kids

Ramadan  Kids Activities
http://islamnewsroom.com/news-we-need/1646-ramadan-kids-things



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 12 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Cooperating with Children

                                                 Cooperating with Children

                                                      by Grandma Jeddah

                                                             

Narrated Anas: Make things easy for the people, and do not make it difficult for them, and make them calm with glad tidings, and do not make people adverse. (Bukhari, Muslim)

It is part of the mercy of Allah that you deal gently with them. If you were severe or hardhearted, they would have broken away from you . . .  (Quran 3: 159)

Your child is more willing to cooperate with you even when it’s against his wishes when you two have a respectful, understanding and cooperative relationship.  In Dr. Michael Poplin’s book Taming the Spirited Child he mentions that in one of his counseling sessions with an older teenager, he had to explain to the young man that he knew how difficult it was for the young man to do what he knows is right when that action is the same as what his parents wanted him to do. This aversion to obeying parents when hurt by them can be very strong in children. Knowing this can help direct parents in managing their child's behavior.  Instead of venting your anger through vicious strikes and belligerent tirades, remain calm and civil when correcting your child.  Some parents believe that a hard approach such as forcing their child into submission will achieve their goal. But often the opposite is true.  Force builds aversion which breaks down reception of information as well as communication.  It also leads to resistance that can lead to conflict.  Whenever possible, parents should make things easy for their children. When your child is content with you, he is more inclined to be content with the religion you have raised him with.


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Ramadan For Kids

Ramadan For Kids (npr.org)
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Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 12 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

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It’s that time of year again . . . Ramadan! One of the best things we can do during Ramadan is read more Quran. Need some extra help opening up the Quran? Join Grandma Jeddah in her Quran Q & A Contest. Guess what . . . everyone can be a winner! Here’s how it works:

Grandma Jeddah will post a question each week, insha'Allah. Which day of the week? It will vary each week—that means you have to visit Grandma Jeddah’s “What’s New” page on her website, or visit her Face Book page, or read her Blog, or follow her on Twitter to find out.

All answers to the questions can be found in Quran. This makes a fun and encouraging way to read more Quran throughout this special moth. All participants will receive a certificate of participation, insha’Allah. Submit your answers at:

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Show your Love

                                            Show your Love

                                     by Grandma Jeddah

There are so many ways you can acknowledge your child. One way the Prophet (saw) did so was by hugging and kissing the young ones in his family.  

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (saw) kissed his grandson Hasan bin `Ali in the presence of Aqra` bin Habis. Thereupon Aqra` remarked: "I have ten children and I have never kissed any one of them.'' The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) cast a glance upon him and said, "He who does not show mercy to others, will not be shown mercy.''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Cultures have different norms.  But our culture is the religion of Islam. Get in the habit of expressing affection toward your child.  For most mothers, hugging and kissing their children comes naturally. There are situations where mothers may have difficulty showing affection, however.  More on that subject in Secret 3.

            What are the ways you can show affection toward your child?  They are countless. You can show your love by hugging him when he’s brought home a gift for you from school or when he’s shown you high grades on his report card.   Hug and kiss him when you first see him as he hops out of bed in the morning or before he retires for the night in the evening.  When you see him leave for school or go outside to play, give him a hug.  It will go a long way in helping him feel good about himself at school and away from home.  The comfort and stability of a warm hug is reassuring. 

  You know your child better than anyone. Write down ways to let him know you are pleased with him and tape it on the wall above your bed as a reminder--kiss, hug, smile, touch, hold his hand, massage his back, say “I love you.” 


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Acting out Feelings

                                                             Acting out Feelings 

                                                              by Grandma  Jeddah

Children with learning and cognitive disabilities sometimes act out inappropriately by exhibiting behaviors such as throwing tantrums or shouting rudely and boisterously when expressing themselves. This is because they have limited verbal abilities.  They are unable to express their feelings appropriately.  Teaching your child the words she needs to describe how she feels is important. “I feel angry, hurt, sad, happy, disappointed, jealous, cheated.”  The more your child can verbally express her feelings, the less her need to act out the feeling in order to be understood. Secret 4 offers more information on teaching your child words to explain feelings.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Seven Ways to Prepare for Ramadan

Seven Ways to Prepare for Ramadan (irusa.org)
http://www.irusa.org/blog/seven-ways-to-prepare-for-ramadan/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 12 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com