How to Touch Your Child's Heart: Using Influences (Outstanding Muslim Parent)

How to Touch Your Child's Heart: Using Influences (Outstanding Muslim Parent)
http://outstandingmuslimparents.tv/lp-1/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Becoming a Patient Parent (Mothers Notebook)

Becoming a Patient Parent (Mothers Notebook)
http://www.mothersnotebook.com/?p=1827

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

The Value of Stay-at-Home Moms (Focus on the Family)

The Value of Stay-at-Home Moms (Focus on the Family)
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/parenting_roles/value-of-stay-at-home-moms.aspx

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Special Time at Home

                                        Special Time at Home

                                          By Grandma Jeddah

Special time is not only for outings.  Make a game day at home.  Every Friday night you can play scrabble or cards, color, put together puzzles, or play guessing games. Begin reading a chapter book to them that they enjoy.  Read a chapter or simply a few pages each day or each week.    Of course if you have four, five, six children or more, spending personal time can become a true challenge.  Play card games or board games with several at a time.  Or just simply plop down on the bed while you’re nursing the baby; the others are sure to trample in. While nursing, engage the others in conversation about their day at school or whatever might interest them.  Try reading a story to several kids at a time.  Place one child on your lap and one at each side. Each day you read, rotate who gets to sit on your lap. Discuss the story with everyone after you’ve finished reading.  Spending half an hour of personal time for each child can seem impractical when you have a house full of children and a household to run.  Do what you can.  Every little bit helps.

 Are you beginning to see how easy it is to develop ideas of your own that will help you give your child the attention he seeks?  When some of your children are away at school, use the time for the younger ones.  Dig out the play dough and puzzles.  Play catch or kick ball in the house with a soft Nerf ball.  Let little Omar help mix the eggs for breakfast or crack the peanuts for the granola.

            When the younger ones are in bed at night, use that time for some of the older ones. Or you can multi-task--that method we mothers know all too well.  Your daughter, who is still in the fantasy stage about the joys of washing dishes or cooking dinner, can join in the activity with you.  You wash and she rinses.  That‘s a huge chunk of one-on-one time right there.  Or you could let one of your children help you cook.  Certainly, all of this delays the time you use to complete your responsibilities but so does stopping to deal with behavior problems. 

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Parents and Children

Parents and Children (alislam.com)
http://www.al-islam.org/islamic-family-life-sayyid-akhtar-rizvi/parents-and-children


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Parents and Children

Parents and Children (alislam.com)
http://www.al-islam.org/islamic-family-life-sayyid-akhtar-rizvi/parents-and-children


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Focus on Strengths

                                      Focus on Strengths

                                                     By Grandma Jeddah

Focus on your child’s abilities rather than weaknesses. Children who are constantly bombarded with corrections, complaints, and criticism develop hostilities that can result in combative, defensive, and resistant behaviors.  If you frequently hear these phrases from your child, she may be defensive:

“I don’t care.”

“I’m bored.”

“So what?”

“Leave me alone.”

            Take mental note or written notes of what your child enjoys doing and is capable of doing.  When you see her involved in these activities, compliment her endeavors.  Compliments boost her self esteem which gives her the desire to cooperate. When praising, don’t ruin it by following up with a negative.  “I see you’re texting your friends.  You seem to like text messaging.  You spelled school wrong it’s s-c-h . . . .” Leave a compliment a compliment. Also, be sure to involve your child in activities where she can succeed.  Find activities that she enjoys that aren’t competitive.  Someone else‘s winning is at the cost of your child losing . . . often repeatedly.  Your child might be heard saying, “I never win.”  The fact is, she’s probably correct.  This can cause her to begin to doubt herself and her abilities.  This is why it’s a good idea to get her engaged in non-competitive activities.  Examples of such interests can be shooting hoops free style,  hiking, fishing,  bird watching, rock collecting, shell collecting, swimming, scrapbook making,  roller skating, ice skating, assembling puzzles, beading jewelry, creating crafts, sewing, gardening, T-shirt printing, T-shirt tie dying, designing tissue paper flowers and much more.  You can look up crafts and hobbies on-line or visit the library for books to check out.


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

How to Get your Child to Bed without Hassle

How to Get your Child to Bed without Hassle (effectiveislamicparenting.com)
http://www.effectiveislamicparenting.com/2013/01/how-to-get-your-child-to-bed-without-hassle/


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Give Me a Break

Give Me a Break

By Grandma Jeddah

Try this wonderfully useful discipline method--“Time-Out”.  When your child misbehaves, send him to his room for some time out.  If you have other children in the home and they share a room with your misbehaving child, make sure he spends his time-out alone.  You want a room where he can be unaccompanied and not have interaction with others.  Although it’s preferable to have a permanent room that is used for time-outs, any room in the house that is not occupied will suffice. Even a spot on the couch, in a corner or in the hallway can be used.  Select a location that is reasonable for your home setting.    This is as long as there is no concern he will cause harm to himself.  A general exception to any room in the house would be the bathroom and kitchen.  The kitchen has fire and hot items which could be dangerous and the bathroom is generally an unclean place.

Keep in mind that children with ADHD may need a room rather than simply sitting in one spot for their time-out period.  Their inability to remain still for an extensive period may lead you to unnecessarily enforce further sanctions due to their failure to be able to sit still for the duration. For older kids around 10 to 13 years of age, time-out can be waiting outside of the house.  This is used for extremely unruly children who are expressing defiance and showing their complete disregard to your 1-2-3 counting or stars off.  Be sure not to react emotionally when directing your child to go outside.  Give your child his warning of stopping the extreme behavior by the time you count to 3 or he’ll have to wait outside for 10 minutes. Outside time-outs are useful during periods when your child appears to be going through an “out of control” moment.  This works well with strong-willed children and those with ADHD.  Make sure his friends aren’t around outside before you send him out so he won’t have his companions to entertain him. Leaving the house can have a strong impact because your child is completely removed from participation in the home. It’s as if he’s an outcast.


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Raising Upright Children

Raising Upright Children (SeekGuidance.com)
http://seekersguidance.org/courses/GEN140


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com