How to Become a Patient Parent (By: Grandma Jeddah)

How to Become a Patient Parent

By: Grandma Jeddah

She’s always flying off the handle . . . she’s so hot headed . . . Boy does she have a short temper! Whatever you choose to call it—not being able to control yourself when you’re angry can hamper your success in many realms of your life including marriage, parenting, employment, friendship and most importantly–your religion.

There are numerous recommendations from Quran and Sunnah that encourage us to control our anger and be patient. Here are a few:

Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning. (Quran39:10)

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "The strong man is not one who is good at wrestling, but the strong man is one who controls himself in a fit of rage.''(Bukhari and Muslim)

If you are struggling with controlling your temper, here are several empowering tips to get you started on the road to a more tame and controlled temperament.

Learn why your child misbehaves and over 2 dozen tips on how to manage your child's behavior without hitting or shouting. Read Grandma Jeddah's e-book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Buy her e-book now at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

Tip # 3 for Managing Your Child who is Hyperactive (From: Grandma Jeddah)

  Do you have a hyperactive child? 

 Here is a Terrific Tip to help manage your child's behavior

 without hitting or shouting:

Jewel 3 - Be realistic.

You know your child is active so don’t expect from him what he’s not likely to do. He may not sit quietly with his hands folded like your friend’s young boy—that’s OK.  Everyone is unique in their own way. When you accept your son for who he is--you will help yourself obtain greater tranquility.

Learn why your child misbehaves and over 2 dozen tips on how to manage your child's behavior without hitting or shouting. Read Grandma Jeddah's e-book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Buy her e-book now at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

Tip #2 on Managing Your Hyperactive Child (By: Grandma Jeddah)

  Do you have a hyperactive child? 

 Here is a Terrific Tip to help manage your child's behavior

 without hitting or shouting:

Tip #2 - Be proactive.

If you are expecting visitors, plan to go out to eat, or intend to go shoppint, make sure your child eats before leaving. A hungry child who is hyperactive and impulsive can be a grumpy child, which can lead to a misbehaved child. Take along a few extra snacks so he can munch during his challenging moments. This will keep him occupied and help soothe his mood, insha’Allah.

Learn why your child misbehaves and over 2 dozen tips on how to manage your child's behavior without hitting or shouting. Read Grandma Jeddah's e-book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Buy her e-book now at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

Terrific Tips on Managing Your Hyperactive Child (By: Grandma Jeddah)

  Do you have a hyperactive child? 

 Here is a Terrific Tip to help manage your child's behavior

 without hitting or shouting:

Tip #1 - Reward positive behavior

     One of the best ways to get jamal to control himself--as difficult as this may be for him-- is to reward him when he does exhibit desirable and appropriate behavior. “Thank you for sitting down and not jumping on the couch, Jamal.” “I like how you waited to talk and didn’t interrupt me, Jamal.”  Acknowledging good behavior is one of the best ways to continue receiving it.

Learn why your child misbehaves and over 2 dozen tips on how to manage your child's behavior without hitting or shouting. Read Grandma Jeddah's e-book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Buy her e-book now at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

Habibi Youth Newsletter for December and January

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatu Parents and teachers, May Allah bless you and your family to be well and in strong iman. We are pleased to share with you our second issue of our new bi-monthly youth newsletter Habibi Youth. The focus of our newsletter is to encourage our youth to feel proud and grateful to be Muslims. Our youth’s definition of themselves must come from us, their elders who love them, care about them, and expect them to become our future leaders, insha’Allah.  This month’s Habibi Youth NewsLetter is about memorizing Quran. We hope you and your youth enjoy reading it. Please feel welcome to share our bi-monthly newsletter with your children, family, friends, and Islamic schools. You are more than welcome to make extra copies. If you live in the U.S. or Canada, it would be our pleasure to send additional black and white PDF copies at your request. Or just send us your email, and we can send you a clear PDF copy of Habibi Youth, insha'Allah. Your Sister in Islam, Grandma Jeddah www.grandmajeddah.com grandmajeddah.blogspot.com info@grandmajeddah.com

Recreational Marijuana Use: How to Talk to Your Kids (From: Grandma Jeddah)

On January 1, 2018 recreational marijuana use will be legal in California. For many, that’s not a big deal at all. People have been using marijuana for “fun” for years if not centuries.

 

For Muslims, though, this should set off an alarm. Contemporary living has led to many unlawful practices becoming common activities--fornication, immoral dress attire, and gambling are several examples. We must continually warn our children about the harms of marijuana and it’s unlawfulness in Islam.

 

O you who have believed, indeed, intoxicants, gambling, [sacrificing on] stone alters [to other than Allah ], and divining arrows are but defilement from the work of Satan, so avoid it that you may be successful. Quran 5:90:

 

Just because our children are Muslims, this does not mean they will not succumb to the pressures within this society that lead to haram activities.

 

We must inform them of the tricks of Shaitan that are used to lead them toward such harmful substances. The door opener  for marijuana was that it was medicinal. From that premise, they made recreational use lawful, as well.

 

Of course, under necessity things that are forbidden are made lawful. If I am about to have an operation, I must have a strong substance to put me in a state of mind where the doctors can complete the operation. But this does not mean that the substances the doctors use are the only substances that can be used. Perhaps there are other substances that have no hallucinogenic or narcotic effect that have not been discovered or are not being produced because they will not be economically productive for pharmaceutical corporations. (These discoveries are something that our Muslim scientists can actually pursue, insha’Allah)

 

When the aspect of medicinal marijuana use is brought up, we parents must explain to our children several things.

 

1)      Are the medicinal claims accurate? The fields of medicine and science are not exact sciences. Their claims often change throughout time. The claims of the benefits of marijuana  may be unreliable.

2)      Does the good outweigh the harm? Pharmaceutical companies have produced numerous drugs that were used for extensive periods and are now known to be more harmful than beneficial.

3)      Are there other alternatives? There are many holistic methods of alleviating ailments that marijuana is alluded to help.

 

We do not have the leisure anymore of waiting until our children are teens before telling them about the harms of marijuana. There are now new forms of marijuana called edibles. These are marijuana baked goods and even candy. Because the potency of edibles is not uniform, even ingesting a small amount can lead to extreme erratic behavior such as jumping off of roofs. ¹

 

These products (similar to fruit flavored tobacco and alcoholic beverages) are geared toward our youth. But even young children can unsuspectingly come upon them or be lured or tempted by these dessert-treat-looking drugs.  

 

Marijuna use can lead to psychological, mental and emotional disorders. It is addictive and contributes to a lack of productivity and initiative. It is harmful to the body including the lungs and heart. These are just some of the problems we are aware of today.

 

If marijuna does have some benefit . . . does the good outweigh the harm or does the harm outweigh the good?

 

They ask you about [the] intoxicants and [the] games of chance Say, "In both of them (is) a sin great, and (some) benefits for [the] people. But sin of both of them (is) greater than (the) benefit of (the) two."   (2:219)

If your child can understand the conversation, begin talking to your kids today about the harms of drugs.
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Man jumps off roof after eating edibles

http://www.denverpost.com/2014/04/02/denver-coroner-man-fell-to-death-after-eating-marijuana-cookies/

 National Center for Biotechnology Information

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2886568/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 16 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California. She has written dozens of parenting articles for Muslim magazines, newspapers and blogs.  She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Buy her e-book now at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/