3 Reasons for a Daily Bath

3 Reasons for a Daily Bath (umdean.blogspot.com)
http://umdean.blogspot.com/2013/04/3-reasons-for-daily-bath.html


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

What can you do to get your child active?

                             

                                   What can you do to get your child active?

                                                    by Grandma Jeddah   

Involve you child in sports activities (karate, wrestling, basketball, archery, horseback riding, hiking, swimming.) This will allow him to express his energetic behavior in an acceptable fashion. Involving your child in after school sports programs can be an ideal way for him to get adequate exercise.  Regular practice is often held for the big games; this is a convenient way for your child to get consistent exercise. Martial Arts is another sport that offers a comprehensive workout.  Practicing karate moves at home on days he doesn’t attend class can become a routine that contributes to daily fitness. 

One of the best forms of exercise is just plain old free-time play.  If you have a yard and your child has siblings or friends you have the makings of daily exercise without your involvement. Have jump ropes, basketball hoops, balls and other play equipment available. Often just having kids together invites activity. Remember to monitor and minimize computer use, TV, DVDs and other sedentary activities with your children.


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Making Families Work

Making Families Work (muslimmatters.com)

http://muslimmatters.org/2013/05/10/making-families-work-yasir-qadhi/



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Avoid Name Calling

                                       Avoid Name Calling

                                       by Grandma Jeddah

If your child’s misbehavior leads to your feeling hurt or angry, it’s possible your child is trying to get back at you for mistreating him.  This situation often results in a vicious cycle.  Your child gets angry and acts out rebelliously.   Mother gets back at the child for his vengeful behavior and the child responds back again.  Keep in mind that infants do not seek revenge, and toddlers may not realize this is what they are doing. 

Acting out your frustration or anger when disciplining your child is completely counterproductive to developing a loving and understating relationship.  It can lead to unintended physical harm that causes your child to become resentful and even develop feelings of hate towards parents.  Your child has been enjoined by Allah to be kind to you, not to even say a simple disrespectful word to you.  Acting out your anger toward him makes obeying this command from Allah difficult for your child. 

Don’t be deluded--Muslim parents are not immune from the frustrations which lead to child maltreatment.  Neither are they protected from the resultant unfavorable ramifications that can result from their own uncontrolled emotions getting out of hand.  This is one significant reason why it’s imperative parents seek alternative methods of discipline to physically hitting their child.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَومٌ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَى أَن يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاء مِّن نِّسَاء عَسَى أَن يَكُنَّ

خَيْرًا مِّنْهُنَّ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ بِئْسَ الاِسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمَانِ وَمَن لَّمْ يَتُبْ

فَأُوْلَئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ

O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the (latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.

 (Quran 49:11)

Another way parents hurt their children’s feelings is by calling them hurtful names.  Telling your child he is bad, stupid, crazy, and other hurtful words can humiliate your child.  Some parents use words such as these lightly and don’t consider them anything serious.  No one likes to be called names, even in jest. It lowers a person’s self-esteem and causes one to resent the speaker.

Using words such as these can break down the relationship between you and your child.  Your child is more willing to cooperate with you--even when it’s against his wishes-- when you two have a respectful, understanding and cooperative relationship. 

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Explaining Death to Kids

Explaining Death to Kids
http://thelittlemuslims.com/2013/03/06/explaining-death-to-kids/


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

.Does Your Child need a Spanking? (By Grandma Jeddah)

Does Your Child need a Spanking? (By Grandma Jeddah)

Children have feelings and emotions just as adults do.  The old saying, "You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar,” plays true when dealing with your children.  You may have noticed that some kids do in fact respond to demands when they are finally spanked.  Most all people comply with demands made upon them when under the pressure of physical punishment.  But at what cost is the compliance? At the cost of your child acting out in school because he knows you want him to get good grades, but he wants to show you a thing or two. At the cost of his hurting your feelings in a subtle yet clever way in front of friends and family.  Or at the cost of his rebelliousness even if it results in his being hit.  And ultimately, at the cost of your fractured relationship that prevents your voice and ideas from being heard and accepted by your child.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

New Mothers and Productivity (Sana Gul-Productive Muslim)

New Mothers and Productivity (Sana Gul-Productive Muslim)
http://productivemuslim.com/motherhood-series-new/#more-7385

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com

Test of Children with Special Needs by Grandma Jeddah

Test of Children with Special Needs

by Grandma Jeddah

There is no doubt--raising a child with special needs can be more challenging, stressful and exhausting than raising a child with normal range functioning.  As a Muslim, however, we know that the greater the test the greater the reward.  Raising a child with special needs gives you an opportunity to get so many blessings and rewards.  This is because you have to reach deep, down into your reserve of patience and tolerance to manage your child’s quirky mannerisms, outlandish behavior, and excessive dependence upon you.   Not to mention, you sometimes have to cope with uninformed, disapproving, and intolerant friends, relatives and strangers. So remember the following when you feel like you’re losing control of your household—and your sanity:

مَا عِندَكُمْ يَنفَدُ وَمَا عِندَ اللّهِ بَاقٍ وَلَنَجْزِيَنَّ الَّذِينَ صَبَرُواْ أَجْرَهُم بِأَحْسَنِ مَا كَانُواْ يَعْمَلُونَ

"And those who are patient, we will certainly pay them a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do." (Quran 16:96).

"If Allah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials." (Bukhari).

قُلْ لَنْ يُصِيبَنَا إِلَّا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَنَا هُوَ مَوْلَانَا ۚ وَعَلَى

اللَّهِ فَلْيَتَوَكَّلِ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ

"Say: Nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allah has ordained for us. He is our Lord and Protector, and in Allah let the believers put their trust." (Quran 9: 51).

Use the difficult moments as opportunities to get closer to your Lord.  Seek help from Him often.

دَعَاهُ وَيَكْشِفُ السُّوءَ وَيَجْعَلُكُمْ خُلَفَاءَ الْأَرْضِ أَمَّنْ يُجِيبُ الْمُضْطَرَّ إِذَا   

"Is it not He who responds to the distressed one when he calls Him (better than your gods.)"

 (Quran 27: 62)

But also keep in mind that your child’s disabilities and eccentric behavior may very well have some positive aspects that you are simply unaware of.  Perhaps it’s a blessing from Allah that He has not made known to you. Perhaps it is Allah’s way of guaranteeing your child paradise.

Narrated 'Ata bin Abi Rabah: Ibn 'Abbas said to me, "Shall I show you a woman of the people of Paradise?" I said, "Yes." He said, "This black lady came to the Prophet and said, 'I get attacks of epilepsy and my body becomes uncovered; please invoke Allah for me.' The Prophet (saw) said (to her), 'If you wish, be patient and you will have (enter) Paradise; and if you wish, I will invoke Allah to cure you.' She said, 'I will remain patient,' and added, 'but I become uncovered, so please invoke Allah for me that I may not become uncovered.' So he invoked Allah for her." (Bukhari 7:555)



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.This is an excerpt from her book, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://www.grandmajeddah.com