Coping with an Ill-Tempered Child (From: Islamic Finder, From Shaiku Salman Al-awdah)

Coping with an Ill-Tempered Child (From: Islamic Finder, From Shaiku Salman Al-awdah)
http://www.islamicfinder.org/articles/article.php?id=266&lang=english

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

"Yes" Can be Best By Grandma Jeddah

"Yes" Can be Best

By

 Grandma Jeddah

No one likes to hear “no.” We all like to have our way and do as we wish. But of course life isn’t always that sweet. When possible, give your child an affirmative answer to her requests. Many times “No” is the easiest answer, not the best or only answer. Can I do my homework later?  If it’s a Friday and there’s no school tomorrow, why not let your child use a token from her star chart to excuse herself from homework for a day.

                There are times when “No” means “No”. No way around it. During these occasions try to soften the “No.” 

Suhaila:                Can Jamillah spend the night?

Mother:               Not tonight, maybe another night.

You avoided giving a hard “No.” You haven’t opened yourself up to a definite promise with a date or specific time for the future, but you let your daughter down easy. Hope is better than a hard “no” and who knows, maybe you’ll decide to let the friend spend the night on some other occasion.

If your child wants a special dessert after dinner, rather than “No” try “Yes.”

                “ When you finish your vegetables, I’ll make banana bread.”  If you are too tired to bake, you could fix something simpler such as a smoothie, popcorn or fruit salad.

The point here is that parents shouldn't be so quick to say “No” or discredit their child’s requests. Cooperating with your child in this way shows your child that you are not her adversary. You want to work with her to solve her issues--you're on her side. This is one way to make discipline easier for both you and your child.

This is an excerpt from Grandma Jeddah’s e-Book: Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child—And Keep Your Peace of Mind While at It.  To order her e-Book or receive her free newsletter, visit her at: http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  or   http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

[Family Life - Part 1] Tips on Building a Productive Muslim Household (From:Productive Muslim, By: Grandma Jeddah

[Family Life - Part 1] Tips on Building a Productive Muslim Household (From:Productive Muslim, By: Grandma Jeddah

http://productivemuslim.com/family-life-part-1-tips-on-building-a-productive-muslim-household/#utm_source=ProM-Website&utm_medium=ProM-Website&utm_campaign=Website-Interlinking

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Insightful Quotes from Newest e-Book PARENTS RETIRE, PARENTING DOES NOT

Insightful Quotes from Newest e-Book PARENTS RETIRE, PARENTING DOES NOT

1.The status of parents was elevated by Islam, owing to parental care, sacrifices, and concern for their children, as well as parental effort in the proper upbringing of their children.  But unfortunately, parents have become more focused on careers and friends than their families."

2."Harvard, Oxford, and Cambridge have failed to produce a civilization of conscientious citizens."

3."We have a generation of academically strong, but psychologically weak graduates."

4."Material prosperity in terms of high salary, huge apartments, lavish cars, and branded devices cannot provide a foundation for a happy family."

5. "Many parents are failing to identify their children's problems. Many do not even realize that their child is asking for emotional attention and is suffering in silence."

6. Children are among the most valuable assets of society, but if they are neglected they can turn into liabilities not just for their families but for the entire society as well.

Parenting is a full time, lifetime duty, that deserves priority - let's grab the reigns with gusto and guide our children into the new frontier as strong Muslims who are psychologically and emotionally sound, insha'Allah.

Purchase your new book here: http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/Parents-Retire-Parenting-Does-Not-143.htm

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Grandma Jeddah's Book Reveiw: Everyday Islam: an Easy and Peaceful Way of Life

Grandma Jeddah Reviews 

Shumaysa Amatul Hadi Faruqi's new Book

Grandma Jeddah's Book Reveiw: Everyday Islam: an Easy and Peaceful Way of Life 

Shumaysa Amatul Hadi Faruqi’s Everyday Islam: an Easy and Peaceful Way of Life

You’ve heard it said many times before: Islam is a way of life. Shumaysa Amatul Hadi Faruqi presents a fitting display of this phrase in her new book, Everyday Islam:  An Easy and Peaceful Way of Life.

Everyday Islam gives examples of how every act we perform in our daily lives from sun up to sundown can be done in accordance with the teachings of Quran and our Prophet Muhammad (saw). The book covers useful practices we should instill in our lives starting with getting up in the morning until it’s time to retire in the evening.  Sister Shumaysa reminds us of helpful du’a we should make throughout the day such as when entering the bathroom, leaving the home, and returning back to our dwellings.

The book is clear, precise and easy reading—nothing challenging, just a simple reminder of how to place Islam first in our lives throughout the day. Shumaysa uses an easy going and warm style throughout the book. You feel like a friend is guiding you with gentle and kind reassurance that the Islamic way is indeed the best way to live your life, and it can be done simply.

I especially like her sections on childrearing and marriage. She emphasizes the importance of spending quality time with your family. She explains how time with family not only strengthens the bond of love, but it makes for a healthier family in general.  Indeed, those closest to us deserve our love, caring and affection most. She reminds us that having a family is one of the greatest blessings one can have, as many in the world have lost theirs.

A reflective hadith she includes in the book says that the one who maintains the ties of kinship is the one who does so when his relatives cut off ties from him—an admirable practice to remember.

Regarding the importance of marriage, she emphasizes what many of us already know but need constant reminders of— in order to have a healthy society, we need healthy family units which foster strong values. This is the type of environment which will nurture our children to become the”torch bearers of Islamic ethics and ideology”, she explains.

Everyday Islam stresses the importance of instilling good habits and manners in our children while they are young.  As we know, habits formed during childhood are often the ones that remain with us into adulthood. Reading Shumaysa’s  book Everyday Islam and using it’s reminders of how  to make Islam a part of our daily lives is a helpful guide in our endeavor to impri an Islamic way of life in our children’s hearts.

Purchase it here: http://www.amazon.com/Everyday-Islam-Easy-Peaceful-Life/dp/1502830779 

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

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1. List 7 pieces of advice Luqman gave to his son.
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American Horror Story 3-year-old Tortured, Beaten, and Murdered (Huffington Post, Maryclarie Dale)

American Horror Story: 3-year-old Tortured, Beaten, and Murdered (Huffington Post, Maryclarie Dale)
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/11/06/jillian-tait-gary-fellenb_n_6116704.html

This is horrible. But the sad thing is that when parents discipline children physically, death can easily occur when parents lose control and hit out of frustration and anger. How many parents can truly say that they correct their child with hitting when they are not angry or frustrated.

There is a better way of disciplining our children. And it conforms to the way in which the Prophet (saw) dealt with children. It doesn't involve hitting, shouting or harshness. It involved, patience,  gentleness, and respect. (Grandma Jeddah)

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Teach Your Child with ADHD at Home (By: Grandma Jeddah)

Teach Your Child with ADHD at Home (By: Grandma Jeddah)

If you have a child with ADHD, If at all possible, homeschool your child. Most regular school settings are not suitable for children with ADHD. Schools and classrooms have rigid schedules and rules that many children with ADHD find great difficulty adhering to. In your home setting, you can setup your schedule and teaching programs around your son. This will alleviate the ongoing problems he encounters in school, such as continued discipline complaints from teachers and even his own feelings of failure to comply. 

Teaching your child at home is certainly no easy venture, but it is well worth the effort. Your child will be able to learn in an environment he feels comfortable in and in one that understands his challenges, insha'Allah. For instance, he may find great difficulty sitting in his chair focusing for an hour in class. However, at home, you are free to break up his teaching sessions into 20-minute-or-so periods and then allow him a break. Simple things like this can make a big difference in your son's learning experience as well as improved self confidence.

Some believe that this method of working around your child rather than enforcing him to comply to set rules handicaps him even further because he will eventually have to learn how to comply once he becomes an adult. From my experiences, allowing your child to grow up in an environment in which he feels accepted and feels others understand and care about his unique qualities will give him the self-confidence and security he needs to function better as an adult, insha'Allah. Know, too, that some of the characteristics of ADHD may continue with your child into adulthood, but on a much milder level. Some of the characteristics of ADHD happen to be the same qualities that have made many famous people exceptionally productive and creative.

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

New Parenting Book Coming This Month, Insha'Allah!

New Parenting Book Coming This Month, Insha'Allah!

Parents Retire Parenting Does Not

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html