Principal's Message

Message from the Principal: Brother Eric Ali-- When guiding our children toward proper Islamic character, we must remember that part of being a wise teacher or parent is being kind and gentle with our children. During the time of the Prophet (saw), a Bedouin urinated in the masjid. Immediately the Prophet’s companions rushed toward the man to beat him. But the Prophet (saw) told them to leave him alone. After the man finished urinating, the Prophet (saw) told him, “Verily, filth and urine are not permitted in these masjids. Indeed, it is for the remembrance of Allah.” The Messenger said to his companions, “I was sent to make things easy, and I was not sent to make things difficult.” And he poured a bucket of water over the urine. Even though our children were raised in Islam, eventually they will have to choose to be Muslims. Let’s help make the proper decision easy for them.-- Al-Madinah School: 1635 South Saint Andrews Place, Los Angeles, California 90019-- madina@pacbell.net (1-323) 296-5961

Monday, September 29, 2014

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Attachment & Reactive Attachment Disorders (From Help Guide.org)

Attachment & Reactive Attachment Disorders

Does your baby show any of these Signs and symptoms:
  • Avoids eye contact
  • Doesn’t smile
  • Doesn’t reach out to be picked up
  • Rejects your efforts to calm, soothe, and connect
  • Doesn’t seem to notice or care when you leave them alone
  • Cries inconsolably
  • Doesn’t coo or make sounds
  • Doesn’t follow you with his or her eyes
  • Isn’t interested in playing interactive games or playing with toys
  • Spend a lot of time rocking or comforting themselves

Does your older child show any of these common signs and symptoms?
§  An aversion to touch and physical affection. Children with reactive attachment disorder often flinch, laugh, or even say “Ouch” when touched. Rather than producing positive feelings, touch and affection are perceived as a threat.

§  Control issues. Most children with reactive attachment disorder go to great lengths to remain in control and avoid feeling helpless. They are often disobedient, defiant, and argumentative.

§  Anger problems. Anger may be expressed directly, in tantrums or acting out, or through manipulative, passive-aggressive behavior. Children with reactive attachment disorder may hide their anger in socially acceptable actions, like giving a high five that hurts or hugging someone too hard.

§  Difficulty showing genuine care and affection. For example, children with reactive attachment disorder may act inappropriately affectionate with strangers while displaying little or no affection towards their parents.

§  An underdeveloped conscience. Children with reactive attachment disorder may act like they don’t have a conscience and fail to show guilt, regret, or remorse after behaving badly.

If your child shows any of these signs they might have Insecure Attachment or Reactive Attachment Disorder. Please read this article for more information:

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/parenting_bonding_reactive_attachment_disorder.htm



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Beating Our Black Children- A Perspective on Football Player Adrian Peterson's Child Abuse Case

Beating Our Black Children- A Perspective on Football Player Adrian Peterson's Child Abuse Case
Could slavery and being subjected to atrocities of colonialism be a cause of excessive child beatings?
http://thegrio.com/2014/09/15/adrian-peterson-child-abuse-slavery/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

It Wasn't Me!!! Discouraging Lying (Video: Nouman Ali Khan)

It Wasn't Me!!! Discouraging Lying (Video: Nouman Ali Khan)
Excellent--less than 7 minutes!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFJZXZ771P0

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html
IS YOUR SON OR DAUGHTER BEING CHOKED BY THE YOKES OF MARRIAGE?
New e-Book by Nissar Nadiadwala, former Head of Islamic Research Foundation

Nissar Nadiadwala, international lecturer on Islam and former head of the Islamic Research Foundation launches his newest coaching book I Want to Marry, But available online at Grandma Jeddah’s e-Bookstore. The first 50 people to purchase the e-book receive a FREE Gift certificate for 25% off any selection from Grandma Jeddah’s Parenting and Marriage e-books, http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/

“We are thrilled to be hosting brother Nisaar's masterpiece on Islamic marriage.” Says Grandma Jeddah, founder of Summit Garden Press, the e-book’s publisher. “Books like this which present a traditional Islamic perspective on marrying our youth are rare.”

Brother Nisaar’s book illustrates how Muslim youth are constantly bombarded with images of intimate and illicit relationships which heighten their desire for marriage.  Yet, they remain single, compelled to pursue higher degrees and constantly search for the perfect “Cinderella” and the enchanting “Prince Charming”!  This book is must read for parents with teens and young adults. It introduces parents to ways in which The Prophet (saw) and his companions entered in to marital relationships, and explains how important it is for parents to convey these methods to their children, in order for them to get married and eventually develop healthy and fulfilling marriages. Brother Nisaar says in his book, “Islam has offered so many options to make marriage easy and zina (adultery and fornication) difficult.”

I Want to Marry, But . . . is designed to help parents:
  • Learn a marital practice of the Sahaba which can help solve the present day problem of excessive Mahr (bridal payment).
  • Understand how to overcome the artificial barrier of age differences in marriage
  • Find out at what age your son or daughter becomes ready for marriage
  • Learn how to overcome expensive cultural marriage ceremonies
  • Find out which societal norms may be preventing your son or daughter from getting married at the proper time
  • And much, much more . . .



About the Author: Nisaar Yusuf Nadiadwala, internationally known for his work as a public speaker on Islam and interfaith dialogues,  is a former senior speaker at the Islamic Research Foundation in Mumbai, and has recently launched Trainer's Gallery, an institute that trains Muslim youth in speech and communication skills for interfaith dialogue.  Learn more about him and contact him at - nisaaryusuf.wordpress.com




Monday, September 22, 2014

New e-Book on Marrying Our Youth

New e-Book on Marrying Our Youth
Are your sons and daughters ready for marriage?


Break the Yokes that Prevent Your Sons and
Daughters from Marrying.

An enlightening refresher full of insight on the pitfalls of following
 modern day marriage practices

  • Learn a practice of the Sahaba that will help your son avoid the yoke of excessive dowry
  • Discover the most common shackles preventing your daughters from marrying.
  • Who says your daughter is too young for marriage?
 I Want to marry, But . . .   gives a fresh perspective on Marrying your sons and daughters--"Islam began as something strange, and it shall return to being something strange, so give glad tidings to the strangers." (Muslim)

Does any of this sound familiar to you?
“Marry my daughter before she's 18—you must be kidding!”
“My son hasn’t even started college yet . . . how can he get married now?”
“I can’t get married yet – my dowry isn’t big enough?”
“I want a wife who is slim, fair, and pretty.”
“If he’s not rich . . . I can’t marry him.”
“She’s too old.”  “He’s too young.”




I recommend this book to 
All - young and old.

Dr. Kanwal Kaisser,
Pediatrician, Director
Hamaray Bachchay,
Author and Youth Coach


This is an excellent book for youth,
Parents, and married couples.  
It unveils the reasons behind
failed marriages and their solution.

Dr. Farhat Nazneen Zafar


An exceptional and insightful book that
Should be read by all Muslim parents
Concerned about marrying their sons and
Daughters to the right person at the
right time.        

Grandma Jeddah, Author of  
"Discipline without Disrespecting" 
Founder of Peaceful Muslim Families



Order now and read it today!

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Top 10 Reasons Children Misbehave (From: MuslimMommy.com By:Um Zakkiyah)

Top 10 Reasons Children Misbehave (From: MuslimMommy.com By:Um Zakkiyah)
http://muslimommy.com/2014/03/22/the-10-top-reasons-children-misbehave/

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Wonderful Tips for Managing sibling Rivalry(From:Productive Muslim, By:Sana Gul Waseem)

Wonderful tips for managing sibling rivalry(From:Productive Muslim, By:Sana Gul Waseem)
http://productivemuslim.com/productive-parenting-sibling-rivalry/#comment-19869

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Six Ways to Discipline Children That Work! (www.webmd.com/)

Six Ways to Discipline Children That Work! (www.webmd.com/)
http://www.webmd.com/parenting/family-health-12/how-to-child-discipline



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Monday, September 15, 2014

Ten Reasons Not to Hit Your Kids (www.naturalchild.org/)

Ten Reasons Not to Hit Your Kids (www.naturalchild.org/)
http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/tenreasons.html




Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Thursday, September 11, 2014

Seven Tips for Practicing Positive Discipline (www.pbs.org/)

Seven Tips for Practicing Positive Discipline (www.pbs.org/)
http://www.pbs.org/parents/talkingwithkids/positive_discipline_tips.html



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Monday, September 8, 2014

Discipline Without Yelling or Hitting (www.positivediscipline.com/)

Discipline Without Yelling or Hitting (www.positivediscipline.com/)
http://www.positivediscipline.com/parents/2002/Discipline%20Without%20Yelling%20or%20Hitting.html


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Thursday, September 4, 2014

Disrespectful Child Behavior? Don't Take it Personally (www.empoweringparents.com/)

Disrespectful Child Behavior? Don't Take it Personally (www.empoweringparents.com/)
http://www.empoweringparents.com/do-you-personalize-your-childs-behavior-when-he-disobeys-you.php


Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

DANGER ALERT!!! (By: Grandma Jeddah)

DANGER ALERT!!! (By: Grandma Jeddah)


We want our children to grow up as good Muslims. We try to teach them to fear Allah and to know right from wrong. Sometimes we believe that if we raise them in an Islamic environment, they will be protected from practicing some of the most abominable and harmful ills of secular society. WRONG!. Our children are living in a world that promotes "freedom" as a virtue. Many are interacting with non-Muslims and  Muslims who condone some of the most despicable practices that Allah the Most High has warned us against.

Marijuana is now legal in California and several other states in the U.S. Not only is it being sold in the traditional manner of dried leaves, it is now being promoted to our youth through what is now called "edibles"  and even as candy! Shaitan deceives by making the bad look good and the good look bad.

In urban Los Angeles, one can find not one--but 2 or 3 "marijuana shops" within blocks of one another.

A true battle is going on with good and bad. Talk to your children about drugs. Teach them ways to say "No"  when they are offered drugs. Here are a few ways"

"No, I'm cool." "I don't need that." I'm not into that, man."

Also, teach them the harms of drugs. I haven't read the book below, but the introduction is excellent. It mentions some of the harms of drugs that we can mention to our children.

And teach them the tricks and deceptions of this society and Shaitan. Years ago, tobacco was touted as a cure-all for many ailments. The same is being done with "medical marijuana". Interestingly, even though marijuana has recently been  promoted as medicinal, now in some states, such as Colorado, it is also allowed for recreational use, similar to alcohol.

You might be interested in picking up a copy of this book that was sent to me in my email. It's called The Effects of Drugs Upon the Mind. Here is the link to the book and the introduction:
May Allah protect our children-and us-- from harm and keep us all on the straight path.

http://www.authenticstatements.com/drugs-and-their-effect-upon-the-mind-by-shaykh-muhammad-baazmool/
From its harms is that the addict is a burden upon the society. He does not bring any good to his society nor is he successful in that which he brings forth. 
From its harms is that the addict is despised and hated, even by the closest of people to him.
From its harms is the squandering of wealth and the inability to make noble earnings. So he resorts to earning wealth by way of criminal means. I seek Allaah’s refuge for me and for you.
From its harms is deterioration of one’s health and the contraction of incurable diseases, leading the person to death.
From its harms is the loss of dignity and inclining towards the wicked, from men or women.
From its harms is the shortening of life due to what it causes from destruction of the bodily organs and due to what is exposes the person to from grief and stress.
From its harms is the Shayateen gaining mastery over the addict and the angels of mercy being far away from him, until he is driven to the Hellfire, and the refuge is with Allaah. Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic said: 
 “And whosoever turns away (blinds himself) from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent (Allaah) (i.e. this Qur’aan and worship of Allaah), We appoint for him Shaytaan (Satan _ devil) to be a Qarîn (an intimate companion) to him. And verily, they (devils) hinder them from the Path (of Allaah), but they think that they are guided aright! Till, when (such a one) comes to Us, he says [to his Qarîn (Satan / devil companion)] "Would that between me and you were the distance of the two easts (or the east and west)" a worst (type of) companion (indeed)! It will profit you not this Day (O you who turn away from Allaah’s remembrance and His worship, etc.) as you did wrong, (and) that you will be sharers (you and your Qarîn) in the punishment.” 





Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

Monday, September 1, 2014

Disciplining Your Child Without Beating (www.unicef.org/)

Disciplining Your Child Without Beating (www.unicef.org/)
http://www.unicef.org/jamaica/parenting_corner_2904.htm



Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html