Calling Children Bad Names (By Grandma Jeddah)

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How to Discipline Children the Islamic Way

By Grandma Jeddah

The Way The Prophet (saw) Interacted with Children

According to hadith, Anas Ibn Malik said, “I served the Prophet (saw) for ten years, and he never hit me, insulted me or frowned in my face." (Muslim)

          This hadith is truly amazing. It’s amazing because children are children. Nature doesn’t change. Youngsters can be disruptive, forgetful, irresponsible and annoying at times. This hadith clearly tells us how patient the Prophet (saw) was with the young children around him. Not only did the Prophet (saw) avoid hitting according to this hadith, he also avoided using hurtful words.

Avoid name calling

According to hadith, the Prophet (saw) said “A Muslim is the one from whose hands and tongue other Muslims are safe.” (Tirmidhi) When disciplining your child, know that name calling and speaking abusively should be avoided. Allah says in Quran 49:11: O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the (latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.

          Some parents make little of calling their children names such as stupid, dumb or crazy. They don’t consider it a serious offence or find it a need for concern. However, this ayat from Quran, lets us know in clear terms that calling our children hurtful words that humiliate them is wrong and should be avoided. So not only should we shun hitting, we should also ensure that we speak to our children respectfully. 

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Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-books at:  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/