Teach the Prophet's Advice When Angry By: Grandma Jeddah

Teach your child how the Prophet (saw) suggested we should behave when angry.  Use this as a means of assisting her in coming up with her own solutions.

Narrated AbuDharr: The Apostle of Allah (saw) said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.   (Tirmidhi Hadith 5114)

        This hadith is so befitting regarding situations that lead us to becoming angry.  Often times when we get upset, we become destructive and hostile.  This type of behavior becomes less possible when we’re sitting or lying down. 

        Along with learning alternative behaviors to acting out her anger, your child also needs to know what can help diminish her anger. You probably already know the old saying: All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.  Well, this saying plays ever so true when it comes to cooling your child’s temper down.

         Adults need outlets that will allow them to relax and gather their resolve and continue on their journey in this life.  Children are no different.  They need a break sometimes.  Teach them ways of managing their stress. 

        Do you want to show your child a wonderfully easy way to feel better when she’s under pressure? Teach her to exercise when she’s at her wits end.  When she exercises, natural chemicals are released from her brain that actually help her feel better. 

        Don’t be misinformed; exercise doesn’t have to be dull and monotonous.  Get the basketball out and let your daughter play a game of basketball with her brother.  If there’s a punching bag around, let her give it a few punches.  Pull out the jump rope from the toy box and let her jump her troubles away.  How about a little belly dance. The exercise possibilities are endless.  Together, you and your daughter can enjoy the process of selecting the types of exercise activities she takes most pleasure in.  Make a list of the exercises.  Post them up on the refrigerator, bedroom door or somewhere prominent.  When your child gets into one of her aggressive moods, remind her to check her “Stress Relief” list to help calm down.


This is an excerpt from Grandma Jeddah’s FREE e-Book: Discipline without Disrespecting: 8 Tips to Taming Your Muslim child's Temper.  To download your FREE e-Book or receive Grandma Jeddah's FREE newsletter, visit her at http://www.grandmajeddah.com/

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